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頭腦清醒和正念

近年來，心理健康 行業發生了翻天覆地的變化。 正念冥想已得到認可 作為 幫助人們管理 思想並從痛苦和分散注意力的心理癥狀中獲得緩解的有力工具 。 它現在無處不在，以至於它在2014年登上了《時代》雜誌的封面 。
安靜的革命者，如喬恩·卡巴特-津恩（Jon Kabat-Zinn），幾十年來一直是 這種方法 的主要 聲音，贏得了一定的勝利。 令人驚訝的勝利，因為正念正念正被越來越多的 主流 專業人士採用，並被置於 福利 歐洲和美國的項目和計劃。不再有太多爭論 關於它是否有效;研究 資金越來越多地 用於 弄清楚 它為什麼以及如何運作。
對許多人來說，正念是一種 結束本身。有人認為， 更大意識的果實將自然地從 實踐的普遍性增加。它正在被納入治療方案、教育、工業等 ，為受眾的變化 進行 包裝。 報告的效果 是如此積極，以至於只能從中獲得好處 。 這是 真正的説明， 似乎 沒有缺點。
最後一章不是關於它的價值，因為這是 無可爭議和值得稱讚的，而是關於我們從這裡走向何方。 心靈清除提供了一個 非常真實的下一步 和 正念掌握的工具 。
正念是基於 人類 和實現的模型，從根本上與 生物醫學模型和多種形式的心理治療。 因此，雖然它作為一種獨立的技術 很有用， 但關於它如何成為 更多 整合到健康和福祉提供的結構 中，而不會丟失一些重要的東西或改變其宿主。 兩者或 其中之一都可以，
當然，被認為是積極的結果 取決於一個人的立場。
變得更加正念和覺知，我們發現我們並不完全是我們認為的那個人或我們自己。以平衡的方式觀察我們的內在景觀可以讓我們注意到我們的思想 經營。我們不僅發現 思想和情感是一個不斷變化的雲景觀，而且在 為了進行任何形式的正念，這些雲的內在觀察者 必須找到。因此，觀察者更多地成為舞臺的中心 人們認為雲 比我們想像的要小。
觀察者成為 焦點，因為更接近 滿足的源頭， 更真實 最終比雲中的圖案更熟悉。對於那些嘗過 正念好處 的人， 它所依賴的模型，包括 「你不是 你的思想」的基本前提， 不僅僅是 一個 理論可能性等同於有效性。這是一個 經驗豐富的現實。 但 正念冥想 本身不會 處理 頭腦，除非你有 一生 或更長時間的時間。這不是我們大多數人想要的。它也需要支援， 這就是為什麼冥想在其原始背景下 經常在專門的社區中教授。有 經歷過不同階段的老師 冥想自己。 有支援，有指導，有共同的理解和目標，還有一定程度的 專注溝通。不僅如此， 但是，社區通常會存在於一個更廣泛的背景下，支援 和慶祝 那些 將 實踐作為他們一生的工作的人的工作。
在一個現代的世俗社會， 從業者可能是一個志同道合的社區的一部分，越來越成為一個在線和地理上分散的社區， 但 更廣泛、佔主導地位的社會背景不太可能基於 我們是誰的支援 模式。
正念作為一條道路也是 由於現代人 通常不 熟悉內心的表現而變得更加困難 學科;教授 這一點 的競技場越來越 少。 我們在 什麼 現代世界，東方和西方，往往 更熟悉和更舒服 的做法，這些做法有更多的事情要做 通過溝通、參與、目標和 結果，而不是為了自己的 利益而 嚴格和緊縮，以及最終依賴於 恩典的進步。
通過更加專注，我們 在我們自己內在找到比 我們開始時更好的地方;我們可以在對世界的反應中獲得更大的自由。 但它 通常只會改變 我們思想的表面。 基本的正念冥想 只是 為了把我們帶到 真正變化的山腳下。和 事實上，在這方面，為它提出的 要求是現實 的。 它以多種方式幫助人們，但並不假裝是完全治癒的方法; 這是一種 有好處的管理技術。
通過正念的進步會隨著時間的推移而減慢，那些想要在自己身上發展觀察者的人 將需要説明。隨著表面靜止，我們發現更多 我們自己內部和與他人之間 不妥協的衝突層。 這些 是我們潛意識的領域，意識之光幾乎沒有 曙光。 更深層次的模式更難打開和轉換。 我們需要 資訊和 援助來對付 這些問題並繼續 取得進展。
對於那些 體驗這種視角的變化，可能會出現下一步該怎麼做的問題。 像其他可能性一樣，主要關注思維雲層的常規業務將不再 足夠。 嘗過了。
許多 心理治療師都知道這一點，許多人正在尋找 將正念融入工作的方法。 但事實並非如此 直接將常規的一對一説明與正念冥想結合起來 一種真正的綜合方法。 正念是一條孤獨的道路，無論禪修大廳或 書籍 數量之多。
我們也 知道，與另一個人交談 也有説明， 並符合現代的需求和觀點 自我實現。但是，談話往往發現焦點更多地回到 心靈的 雲端，而不是觀察者。 所以經常有一個 冥想作為正式練習之間的差距 馴服思想和通過溝通幫助人們的業務 干預。

頭腦清理和正念
伯納的見解在於將 原則和實踐實際上有助於深刻理解我們是誰 以及我們 為什麼受苦的維度。 心靈清除是實用和世俗的，但
打開和 對我們運營的不同維度持現實態度。 它 接過 了正念技術到達 終點的接力棒。 它需要 心理治療中早已為人所知的洞察力， 即客戶與Clearer或治療師之間的關係是在哪裡 深刻的進步發生了，並將其與現在的清晰現實相結合，當我們擁抱正念時，我們會發現這一點。
在面對 困難的記憶和想法， 這就是 正念作為一種技術所教導的 。這主要是有時限的談判 在過去和現在之間。 但是，當我們可以 將其提升到另一個層次時，為什麼要止步於此呢？
頭腦清理是正念掌握。 它是 革命性的 把那些艱難的記憶和想法 帶到現在，並完成它們。 當這樣做時，個人獲得實際和 從那段 過去中永久 解放出來。因此，它們更多地是事實上的存在，而不是 故意的。 選擇。這是關於在此時此地找到通往此地的大門 普通的，容易錯過的工作，與另一個人坐在一起，和他們在一起做你自己 。
心靈淨化的效果 是治療性的，但不是治療。它的目的不是 組織心靈，而是 消除 個人對心靈的需要。伯納的綜合 模型為正念運動提供了根據其自身規則完成的可能性。 不僅他的 心靈模型有助於當前的思維，並解釋為什麼正念是 對心理健康很重要，它也 提供了一個合乎邏輯的、實際制定的方案，以進一步推進它。 它以一種維持和驗證 冥想的世俗使用的方式這樣做 為了健康。它可以適應生物醫學模型並擁有自己的模式。
這種方法本質上是政治性的，因為它 基於 人與人之間關係的動態。 它的技術是可以理解、可測試和可 重複的。 這是 關係的具體細節。
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MIND CLEARING AND MINDFULNESS


There has been a seismic shift in recent years within the industry of psychological health. Mindfulness meditation has been recognised as a powerful tool for helping people manage their minds and gain relief from distressing and distracting psychological symptoms. It is so ubiquitous now that it made the cover of Time magazine in 2014.
The quiet revolutionaries, such as Jon Kabat-Zinn, who has been a major voice for this approach for decades, have won a somewhat surprising victory, as mindfulness is being adopted by increasing numbers of more mainstream professionals and put at the heart of well-being projects and programmes in Europe and America. There is no longer much argument about whether it works; research funding is increasingly being devoted to figuring out why and how it works.
Mindfulness is, for many, an end in itself. It is posited that the fruits of greater awareness will naturally emerge from the increasing prevalence of practice. It is being brought into therapy programmes, education, industry and so on, packaged for the variations in audience. The reported effects are so positive that only good can conceivably come of it. It is real help and there seem to be no drawbacks.
This last chapter is not about its value, for that is undisputed and applauded, but about where we go from here. Mind Clearing offers a very real next step and the tools for mindfulness mastery.
Mindfulness is based on a model of the human being and fulfilment fundamentally at odds with the biomedical model and many forms of psychotherapy. So while it is useful as a stand-alone technique, there is something of an unanswered question as to how it can become more integrated into the fabric of health and well-being provision without losing something essential or changing its host. Both or either can, of
course, be considered to be positive outcomes depending on where one stands.
Becoming more mindful and aware, we discover we are not quite who or what we thought we were. Observing our inner landscape with equilibrium allows us to notice our minds operating. We not only discover that the mind and emotions are a shifting cloud-scape but, in order to engage in any kind of mindfulness, the inner observer of these clouds must be located. The observer consequently comes more to centre stage and the clouds are perceived as smaller than we might have thought.
The observer comes into focus as being closer to the source of fulfilment, more real and ultimately more familiar, than the patterns in the clouds. For those who have tasted the benefits of mindfulness, the model it rests on, which includes the basic premise that ‘you are not your mind’, is not just a theoretical possibility among others of equal validity. It is an experienced reality. But mindfulness meditation on its own will not deal with the mind unless you have a lifetime or more to spend. This is not what most of us want. It also takes support and is why meditation, in its original contexts, has often been taught in dedicated communities. There is a teacher who has been through the various stages of meditation themselves. There is support, guidance, a common understanding and goal, plus some degree of focused communication. Not only this, but the community will generally exist within a wider context that supports and celebrates the work of those who have taken up the practice as their life’s work.
In a modern, secular society, the practitioner may be part of a like-minded community, increasingly an online and geographically scattered one, but the wider, dominant social context is unlikely to be grounded in a supportive model of who we are.
Mindfulness as a path is also made more difficult because modern people are not often familiar with the performance of inner discipline; there are fewer and fewer arenas in which this is taught. What we in the modern world, East and West, tend to be more familiar and comfortable with are practices that have more to do with communication, engagement, goals and results, rather than rigours and austerities for their own sake and progress that ultimately relies on grace.
Through being more mindful, we do find better places within ourselves than the ones we started in; we can gain greater freedom in our responses to the world. But it usually only changes the surface of our minds. Basic mindfulness meditations were only ever meant to take us to the foothills of real change. And, indeed, the claims being made for it are realistic in this respect. It helps people in many ways but does not pretend to be a complete cure; it is a management technique with benefits.
Progress through mindfulness slows over time, and those who want to develop the observer in themselves will need help. As the surface stills, we discover more intransigent layers of conflict within ourselves and with others. These are areas of our subconscious where the light of awareness barely glimmers. The deeper patterns are more difficult to open up and transform. We need information and assistance to deal with them and continue to progress.
For those people who experience this change in perspective, the question may arise about what to do next. Business as usual that focuses largely on the shifting clouds of the mind will no longer be enough, as other possibilities have been tasted.
Plenty of psychotherapists know this and many are seeking ways to incorporate mindfulness into their work. But it is not straightforward to marry regular one-to-one help with mindfulness meditation in a truly integrated approach. Mindfulness is a solitary path, however packed the meditation hall or numerous the books may be.
We also know that talking to another person helps too and speaks to modern needs and views of self-realisation. But the talking so often finds the focus returning more to the clouds of the mind than the observer. So there is often a gap between meditation as a formal exercise for taming the mind and the business of helping people through communication interventions.

Mind Clearing and mindfulness
Berner’s insights lay in bringing together the principles and practice of what actually helps with a deep appreciation of the dimensions of who we are and why we suffer. Mind Clearing is practical and secular but
open and realistic about the different dimensions in which we operate. It takes up the baton where mindfulness techniques find the end of their reach. It takes the insight, long known in psychotherapy, that the relationship between client and Clearer or therapist is where deep progress takes place and marries this with the crisp reality of the now, which we discover when we embrace mindfulness.
It is certainly beneficial to learn equilibrium in the face of difficult memories and ideas, and this is what mindfulness teaches as a technique. It is mostly a time-bound negotiation between the past and present. But why stop there when we can take it to another level?
Mind Clearing is mindfulness mastery. It is revolutionary to bring those difficult memories and ideas right into the present and finish them. When this is done, the individual gains actual and permanent freedom from that piece of the past. Thus, they are more present as of fact, rather than wilful choice. It is about finding the doors to right here and right now in the ordinary, easily missed work of sitting with another person and being who you are with them.
The effects of Mind Clearing are therapeutic, but it is not therapy. It does not set out to organise the psyche but to obviate the individual’s need for the mind. Berner’s comprehensive models offer the mindfulness movement the possibility of completion according to its own rules. Not only does his model of the mind contribute to current thinking and explain why mindfulness is important for mental health, it also offers a logical, practically worked-out programme for taking it further. It does so in a way that maintains and validates the secular use of meditation for health. It can accommodate the biomedical model and hold its own.
The approach is essentially political because it is grounded in the dynamic of person-to-person relating. Its technology is understandable, testable and repeatable. It is the nuts and bolts of relationship.

Do-it-yourself Mind Clearing P.215

自己動手清理頭腦
我們需要 説明在 深度 層面上處理 思想，因為 思想始於關係，必須在那個領域內解決。 獨自一人，我們很可能在某個階段被頭腦欺騙。清理溝通週期解決了我們取得重大進展所需的 內容。然而，我們可以 自己 做 很多 事情，瞭解 頭腦清醒的原則，再加上一些個人的 學科。 這需要 大量的 承諾，但可以
有價值，尤其是 當與頭腦清理會議或 正念冥想練習。以下是一些 可以通過 自己 動手清除頭腦來解決的問題示例 。

思考對立面
當我們開始更加意識到 我們的思想結構 和我們可能被鎖定的固定態度 時，那麼 也許可以 做一些工作 通過個人態度工作來解開它們。當我們處於一種狀態的中間時 的心，15 那麼特別難把它看作是 心的一個 方面。 一個國家的本質，由與之相關 的態度來定義， 是它 當我們身處其中時，對我們來說似乎是真實的。因此，例如，如果我 被 一個事件觸發進入 我的 的態度 別人不理解我，然後我的整個存在與之產生共鳴 州。我相信它並據此採取行動。然而，我們為識別和糾正態度所做的工作越多 ， 我們就越 有可能開始意識到 這種態度和狀態。 此刻。 那麼，在某個 時候，我可能處於一種別人 不理解 我的狀態，這感覺完全真實 和真實，同時也認識到這 實際上是我滑入的一種態度。 在這種時候，也許可以花一些時間 單獨練習一些 態度清理，與 離開 國家的想法 。 下面是 執行此操作的兩個 範例。
約翰：我是 好撒瑪利亞人，還是那些會從另一邊經過的人之一？我不喜歡 有組織的宗教，但無論如何，這個問題過去經常出現。我會 做了好事，但我不是做了更多的壞事嗎？而且不是很好嗎 我做過的事情沒有資格，因為它 適合我做，使我 成為一個壁櫥的精神病患者，最終完全自私？我不太認為我是 其中之一; 然而，當我接受心理治療培訓並遇到精神病測試時， 我忍不住勾選方框來計算自己的評分。 我沒有 資格，但我 繼續考慮。
這個問題很晚了。我們三個孩子都認識我們的母親 對人的好壞有一種絕對正確的本能——她曾經有過這種本能 用來證明禁止 新朋友 踏入 房子是正當的
因為她 瞬間將他置於線的黑暗面。 她稍微微妙地把我放在了一起。 '雄性 這個家庭世代交替，“她說。“他們去好-壞-好-壞等等。好吧，你的父親 祖父是個壞人。
當我練習的時候 通常，這個問題並不完全是日常問題，但它 仍然存在
——足以讓我有一天去 散步時突然出現 。而且沒有意識 開始這樣做時，我發現自己在思考相反的東西：記住時代 當我做了好事的時候，然後當我做了壞事的時候，來來回回， 來來回回，來來回 回; 還 編造 好的撒瑪利亞人場景進行實驗 有好的和壞的反應。
但我發現的是，多麼武斷 事實證明，將好行為與壞行為分開！我在理智上知道這 經常（總是？ 案件， 哲學家可以辯論權利 有些事情永遠是錯誤的。現在現實是有形的：決定 什麼是好是壞，真的取決於我。
我堅持這個過程，沿著河邊走，太陽照在我的身上 回來，好到壞，好到壞...然後突然間，我好是壞的 整個概念襲擊了我 太荒謬了，以至於我笑了（還好我們住在一個僻靜的地方 斑點）。不僅對我的行為的評估是好是壞取決於我，我如何根據這種評估採取行動也取決於我。而且，有了那個 自覺，我本質上是好或壞的整個概念 蒸發。
我什至 不介於兩者 之間。 我都不是
——甚至沒有 規模。 那麼 ，這讓我在實際的日常生活中處於什麼位置呢？它讓我有 負責決定如何行動以及我對自己的感覺。
我們可以自己 做很多 工作。 這是 另一個例子：
洛娜：我感覺很糟糕。似乎什麼都沒有 感覺對。 我被 對過去的遺憾和對未來的焦慮所困擾。什麼 似乎更糟糕的是我住在一個完美的地方。我可以看 從我臥室的窗戶到一個大湖，發出秋色的光芒。 潛鳥令人難以忘懷的 叫聲
淩晨回蕩在水面上，天空是 清脆的藍色。我被愛和照顧，眼前只有美麗 和我身邊的朋友;然而一切，一切， 看起來淒涼，失落和糟糕。
有一次我淩晨4點醒來，我的心砰砰直跳，感覺比 曾經，失望嘮叨著我，對水面上的月光麻木，而我 坐起來，想著我必須處理這件事。如果這種狀態“一切都是 壞'不會玷污我每一個醒著的時間，睡眠 時間，鑒於我生動的夢境，那麼我 將不得不 在那裡 解決 它。 所以我 坐下來 考慮相反，只是“一切都是好的”和“一切都是壞的”。我沒有通過記憶來了解這些狀態，只是一個 想法，或者有時是一種好的感覺，然後壞，好， 然後壞。 壞很容易; 它是如此 熟悉，一種灰色的， 沉重的感覺。 好更難，離我不是那麼近，我努力去獲得“好”態度的想法。 但我 做到了。 我 沒想到我會 一無所獲，但最終我睡著了。
第二天早上，我醒來時看到了一個不同的世界。這不好， 也不壞。 它本身 ，我可以 享受它。就好像一部灰色的電影 從一切中移除，我可以 自由 地享受它， 或者不享受，在普通人中 道路。 一種非常普通的方式。 從那以後 ，我的 與那種狀態的終身關係，“一切都不好”，已經不同了。 它沒有消失，但我知道不是我。

業力清除
內疚或業力是非常有用的東西 被單獨看待。這是我們在很大程度上對自己隱瞞的事情。 對別人隱瞞是有的，但對自己隱瞞 才是 真正的把戲; 我們把自己打 結 試圖蠕動 出於做了違背 我們內在標準的事情的糟糕感覺。 所以 力量 拿著紙和筆坐下來，寫下 我們認為我們做了而不應該 做的事情， 以及 我們 沒有 做到的事情，是一項 重大任務。 這是一項 令人驚訝地難以 完成的任務 ，但它可以帶來巨大的解脫。 業力清除需要的是，我們充分認識到什麼 我們已經 做了 我們覺得的事情 壞。一旦我們獨自 完成並 允許自己 體驗
那種“壞”，通常伴隨著身體的感覺，那麼我們就會 更自由。 如果我們能 告訴別人，那就 更好了。
雷切爾：在 在我的清算會議結束時，我的清算人建議我繼續進行 業力清除並解釋了如何做到這一點。我以為這很容易， 特別是當我在飛機回來之前 ，我在一家沒有人認識我的酒店裡獨處了一段時間。 我 有一個想法，我可以坐下來，投入一個 否則，空蕩蕩的晚上會做一些積極的事情，然後結束它。但是當我 拿著筆和紙坐下，我認出了我面對的是什麼：我！我有 一半認為，在與我的 Clearer 的會議中，很大一部分 很難想出我做過的事情，我感覺不好，因為我 不想告訴她，因為她可能會怎麼看我而感到羞愧。 但我發現我甚至不想告訴自己。話就在那裡， 一開始徘徊在 遙不可及的地方，但我 不得不 強迫自己把它們寫下來。 我 寫了一些小東西，但我知道還有更多。所以我更加努力地嘗試 寫了一些關於在大學里欺騙男朋友的事情。這很困難，因為我 對此感到非常可怕 ，並一直試圖 證明 它，甚至對我一個人在 那個房間里。 即使當我寫它時，我也知道它只是一個 部分真相。很難把這一切寫下來，承認我做了什麼 給自己，把它放在頁面上，這樣我就可以白紙黑字地閱讀它。它是 實際上，這是一種奇怪的經歷，看到我與自己如此衝突。 當我終於把這些事情寫下來時，我經歷了巨大的悲傷——所有我感到難過 的事情，都沒有 說出來。 我最終做不了很長時間，可能 只需20分鐘。但結果是我感到清醒，更真實。

“與他人溝通 ”
頭腦是由失敗的溝通組成的。 另一種做法我們 一個人能獲得一些成功就是大聲和別人說話，就好像他們是 目前。同樣，我們可能需要在會議中取得一些成功。 要單獨看到成功，就像清除業力一樣，要長期 做到這一點 是很困難的。 但我們可以 得到相當大的解脫。 這是
特別是如果我們 與他人有 良好的聯繫感或 神聖。
這裡要說的是 我們沒有 大聲說的話。我們需要 想像這個人與我們 同在，並接受我們要說的話，無論它是什麼。 然後說出來; 說出你真正想 說的話，沒有說的話，被壓抑 和壓抑的話。 我們可以充分做到這一點的程度是 我們將在多大程度上清除這些未完成的通信。這是 被稱為“與他人交流”。
莫莉：我嘗試過幾次 與他人交流 ，它説明我與我 可能無法獲得的情況保持 距離。 特別是有一次，我一個人在房子里，意識到 工作中的一個困難情況在我腦海中轉了一圈又一圈，我對 幾個 人很生氣 。 涉及。 所以我 開始 大聲和他們說話。 我在會議中對此進行了一些練習，所以我 放鬆了下來，決定不 審查我所說的話， 而只是 說出來。 在幾次 錯誤的開始之後，我對 自己身上 散發的激情 感到驚訝。這當然有助於這種情況和 我覺得更能適應工作中的情況 環境並與那些人打交道。

休閒連接
另一個 我們可以 單獨處理的領域是頭腦中的 偶然聯繫。16 有了正念，自動 頭腦在它歸類為相似的想法之間建立的聯繫可能會被打破。這將獲得一定的 從自動思維中解放出來，相應地澄清頭腦。更複雜的連線 也可以 自行解除 通過意識到聯繫來充分的紀律和時間。 通過這樣做，將自己的發現傳達給願意 聽取它們的人可能是有用的 ， 隨著一個人 對思想的深入，就越有可能 產生 與 那些連接。 但是， 可以 單獨復原連線的自動性 。
一種試驗方法 這是為了處理一些在 腦海中不斷盤旋 的東西，也許是一首歌或一個重複的想法。
模式。將其用作冥想並逐步複習 步。不要期待任何特別的事情，並對那裡的東西持開放態度。跟隨 感覺粘稠和帶電的區域。 也許 你會發現你抗拒去看 它的一小部分 ，所以對它持開放態度 區域並保持 開放。 按照連接，您很有可能找到關鍵連接。它可能只是彈出和原因 重複將是 有意識的，你會發現 你的選擇。
簡：我試過了 這和音樂。我經常有一首歌或曲調留在我的腦海裡，所以我試著處理 把它作為一個偶然的聯繫，看看它是否屬實。我有一點 安魂曲 兜兜 轉轉了好幾天，所以我決定 停下來 看看 。 我 一個人 在散步 當時，我突然被腦海中這種重複的聲音激怒了，分散了我對春天鄉村的注意力。 所以我躺在草地上，離小路有點遠，關閉了 我的眼睛，真的聽著音樂。我一遍又一遍地“聽” 每個音符。我找到了！這不是一件大事，但我 意識到 了一個小障礙 在我的內部音響系統中，一點音樂的結束和 整個事情立即重新開始。我不認為這實際上是如何 安魂曲去了，但在我的腦海裡，它只是在這個迴圈中不斷迴圈。我讀過 手冊中伯納談到這種事情的那一點，我沒有 有他描述的相同經歷。我沒有注意到最後是否有一個音符 和一開始一樣，或者類似的東西，但正如我聽的 結束以及它如何回到起點，連接解體了。和 就是這樣。我有這種選擇的感覺 。 我可以選擇 是否聽音樂，但我選擇不聽。

人員清理
有時人們在我們的腦海裡轉了 一圈又一圈。 關於我們的一些東西很粘 與這些人的關係。我們對他們生氣，或者對某事感到難過， 我們會想到 他們。 我們可以 為此做點什麼。 獨自與人 打交道 需要 專注。溝通 大聲說出來可以起作用，但將它們放在我們的意識中並允許自己 體驗它們。我們已經堅持 或抵制了他們， 所以這不是
一定舒適 或容易做到。這 我們抵制的東西往往在深層次上受到抵制，所以保持我們的 關注它們可能是一項艱苦的工作。但是當它完成時，甚至在一定程度上，那麼 與那個人的關係 可能會得到緩解。 下面是 一個示例：
梅蘭妮：我在一個住宅工作室里 和理查有過短暫 的調情，我知道我 有點迷戀他。我不想有一個 與他的關係，但我感到尷尬和憤怒的混合， 身邊背叛，不喜歡想起他，所以盡力把 他從我腦海中消失 了。 我在這方面做得很好 ，特別是因為我們的道路沒有 交叉很多。但是當我知道他要參加一個我要去的會議時， 我對此感到越來越焦慮。
前一天晚上我知道我會見面 他，我躺在床上， 擔心 得睡不 著。 所以我 決定採取行動。我 腦海中浮現出他的形象，放鬆下來。我有意識地輕鬆呼吸，讓我的四肢鬆開到床墊裡 我拿著理查的形象在前面 我的心。我發現這真的很困難。所有這些羞恥和憤怒的感覺 出現時，我的思緒想從圖像上滑落，去更多的地方 舒適。但我堅持了下來 就像燒掉了感情一樣。我一直只是決定 體驗我所感受到 的一切並放鬆。我不得不繼續告訴 我自己認為僅自己才能知道出現的東西。 這很有説明。
當時我感覺也好不到哪裡去。事實上，在某些方面我感覺更糟 過了好一會兒，我決定這是浪費時間，我一定走了 睡覺。但第二天，當我到達 會議時， 我遇到了理查。 很早，很棒。我可以立即看出我沒有感覺 任何我以前的感覺。完全沒問題。我 第一次 注意到 理查似乎在我周圍感到有些尷尬。我感覺很完美 友好，但也幾乎不感興趣。

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Do-it-yourself Mind Clearing
We need help to deal with the mind at a level of depth because the mind began in relationship and must be addressed in that arena. Alone we are likely to be deceived by the mind at some stage. The clearing communication cycle addresses what we need for significant progress. However, there is a good deal we can do on our own with an understanding of the principles of Mind Clearing coupled with some personal discipline. This takes a good deal of commitment but can be
valuable, especially when allied with Mind Clearing sessions or with a mindfulness meditation practice. What follows are some examples of the kind of issue that might be tackled with do-it-yourself Mind Clearing.

Pondering the opposites
As we start to become more aware of the structures of our minds and the fixed attitudes we can get locked into, then it may be possible to do some of the work in unfixing them through solo attitude work. When we are in the middle of a state of mind,15 then it is especially difficult to see it as an aspect of the mind. The nature of a state, defined by the attitude associated with it, is that it seems true to us when we are in it. So, for instance, if I am triggered by an event to go into my attitude of others don’t get me, then my whole being resonates with that state. I believe it and act from it. However, the more work we do to identify and unfix the attitudes, the more likely it is that we will start to become aware of such attitudes and states in the moment. At one and the same time, then, I might be in a state of others don’t get me which feels utterly true and real, while also recognising that this is in fact an attitude into which I have slipped. At such times, it may be possible to take some time to practise a bit of attitude clearing alone, with the idea of stepping aside from the state. Below are two examples of doing just this.
John: Am I a good Samaritan, or one of those who would pass on the other side? I’m not into organised religion, but that question used to pop up frequently anyway. I’d done good things, but hadn’t I done more bad things? And weren’t the good things I’d done disqualified because it had suited me to do them, making me a closet psychopath, ultimately completely selfish? I didn’t quite think I was one; nevertheless, when I was training to practise psychotherapy and came across tests for psychopathy, I couldn’t resist ticking the boxes to calculate my own rating. I didn’t qualify, but I continued to think about it.
The question took root way back. We three children all knew our mother had an infallible instinct for good or bad in people – an instinct she once employed to justify banning a new friend from setting foot in the house
because she’d instantly placed him on the dark side of the line. She’d placed me slightly more subtly. ‘The males of this family alternate through the generations,’ she said. ‘They go good-bad-good-bad and so on. Well, your paternal grandfather was a bad man.’
By the time I was practising regularly, the question was not exactly an everyday issue, but it was still there
– enough to arise out of the blue when I went for a walk one day. And without consciously setting out to do so, I found myself pondering the opposites: remembering times when I’d done good things, then times when I’d done bad things, back and forth, back and forth, back and forth; and also making up good Samaritan scenarios to experiment with good and bad responses.
But what I found was how arbitrary separating good actions from bad actions proved to be! I knew intellectually this was often (always?) the case, and that philosophers could debate the rights and wrongs of some things forever. Now the reality of it was tangible: deciding what was good or bad really was up to me.
I persisted with the process, walking along the river, the sun on my back, good to bad, good to bad… Then suddenly, the whole notion of whether I was good or bad struck me as so ridiculous that I fell about laughing (good thing we live in a secluded spot). Not only was the assessment of my actions as being either good or bad up to me, how I acted on such assessment was also up to me. And, with that realisation, the whole notion of me being intrinsically either good or bad evaporated.
I’m not even somewhere between the two. I’m neither
– not even on the scale. So where does that leave me in practical day-to-day living? It leaves me with total responsibility for deciding how to act and how I feel about myself as a result.
We can do a lot of work on our own. Here is another example:
Lorna: I was feeling pretty terrible. Nothing seemed to feel right. I was plagued with regrets about the past and anxiety about the future. What seemed to make it worse was that I was staying in a perfect place. I could look out of my bedroom window down to a great lake, glowing with autumn colour. The haunting calls of loons
echoed across the water in the early hours and the sky was a crisp blue. I was loved and looked after and had only beauty in front of me and friends at my side; yet everything, everything, looked bleak and lost and bad.
And one time I woke at 4 a.m., my heart pounding, feeling worse than ever, disappointment nagging at me, numb to the moonlight on the water, and I sat up and thought that I must deal with this. If this state of ‘everything is bad’ was not going to tarnish my every waking hour, and sleeping hour, given my vivid dreams, then I would have to tackle it, there and then. So I sat and contemplated the opposites, just ‘everything’s good’ and ‘everything’s bad’. I didn’t get the idea of these states through memories, just an idea or sometimes a feeling of good and then bad, good, then bad. Bad was easy; it was so familiar, a grey, heavy feeling. Good was harder, not so near to me, and I struggled to get the idea of being in a ‘good’ attitude. But I managed. And I didn’t think I’d achieved anything, but eventually I fell asleep.
Next morning, I awoke to a different world. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was itself and I could enjoy it. It was as though a grey film had been removed from everything and I was free to enjoy it, or not, in an ordinary way. A wonderfully ordinary way. And ever since then my lifelong relationship with that state, ‘everything is bad’, has been different. It hasn’t gone, but I know it’s not me.

Karma clearing
Guilt or karma is something that can very usefully be looked at alone. It is something we have hidden largely from ourselves. Hiding it from others is there, but hiding it from ourselves is the real trick; we tie ourselves in knots trying to wriggle out of the bad feeling of having done something that goes against our inner standard. So the power of sitting with a paper and pen and writing down the things we think we have done that we should not have done, and the things we have failed to do, is a major task. It is a task that is surprisingly hard to keep to but it can bring enormous relief. What karma clearing requires is that we fully recognise what we have done about which we feel bad. Once we have done this alone and allowed ourselves to experience
that ‘badness’, usually accompanied by bodily sensations, then we will be freer. If we can then tell someone else, even better.
Rachel: At the end of my Clearing session, my Clearer suggested that I carry on the process of karma clearing and explained how to do it. I thought it would be easy, especially as I had some time alone in a hotel, where no one knew me, before my flight back. I had the idea that I could just sit down and devote an otherwise empty evening to something positive and get it over with. But when I sat down with my pen and paper I recognised what I was up against: me! I had half thought that, in the session with my Clearer, a huge part of the difficulty in coming up with things I’d done that I felt bad about was that I didn’t want to tell her and felt ashamed because of what she might think of me. But I found out that I didn’t even want to tell myself. The words were there, hovering just out of reach to begin with, but I had to force myself to write them down. I wrote a few minor things, but I knew there was more. So I tried harder and wrote something about cheating on a boyfriend in college. It was difficult, as I felt pretty horrible about it and kept trying to justify it, even to myself alone in that room. And even when I’d written it, I knew it was only a partial truth. It was so difficult to write it all down, confess what I’d done to myself and put it on the page so I could read it in black and white. It was a strange experience actually, to see that I was in such conflict with myself. And I experienced huge sadness as I finally wrote those things down – all the things I felt bad about and hadn’t said. I couldn’t do it for very long in the end, probably just 20 minutes. But the result was that I felt sober and more real.

‘Communication to other’
The mind is made up of failed communications. Another practice we can get some success with alone is to speak to others out loud as if they were present. Again, we probably need to have had some success with this in sessions to see success alone and, as with karma clearing, to do it for long is difficult. But we can gain considerable relief. This is
especially so if we have a good sense of connection with others or with a sense of the divine.
It is important here to say what we have not said out loud. We need to imagine the person as present with us and receptive to what we have to say, whatever it is. Then say it; say what you really want to say, what has not been said, what has been held back and suppressed. The extent to which we can do this fully is the extent to which we will be clear of those unfinished communications. This is known as ‘communication to other’.
Molly: I tried communication to other alone a few times and it helped me get a bit of distance from situations that I might not otherwise have got. One time in particular, I was alone in the house and realised that a difficult situation at work was going round and round in my head and I was angry with a couple of the people involved. So I started talking out loud to them. I’d had some practice at this in sessions, so I relaxed and decided not to censor what I said, but just to say it. After a couple of false starts, I surprised myself with the passion that came out of me. It certainly helped the situation and I felt more able to meet the situation in the work environment and deal with those people.

Casual connections
Another area we can work on alone is casual connections in the mind.16 With mindfulness, the automatic connections the mind makes between ideas it classifies as similar can be broken. This will gain a certain amount of freedom from automatic thinking and correspondingly clarify the mind. More complex connections can also be disarmed on one’s own with adequate discipline and time by becoming conscious of the connections. By doing this, it might be useful to communicate one’s findings to someone open to hearing them, as the deeper one gets with the mind, the more there is likely to be emotional charge related to those connections. However, the automaticity of the connections can be undone alone.
One way to experiment with this is to work with something that keeps going round in the head, perhaps a song or a repetitive thought
pattern. Use it as a meditation and go over it step by step. Do not expect anything in particular and be open to what is there. Follow areas that feel sticky and charged. Maybe you will find you are resistant to looking into a little area of it, so open to that area and keep opening. Follow the connections and there is every chance you will find a key connection. It may just pop up and the cause of the repetition will be made conscious and you will discover your choice.
Jane: I tried this with music. I often have a song or tune stuck in my mind, so I tried dealing with it as a casual connection to see if it was true. I had had a bit of a requiem going round and round for what felt like days, so I decided to stop and look at it. I was on a walk on my own at the time, suddenly irritated by this repetitive sound in my head distracting me from the spring countryside. So I lay down in the meadow, a little away from the path, closed my eyes, and really listened to the music. I went over and over it, ‘hearing’ each note. And I found it! It wasn’t a big thing, but I became aware of a little hitch in my internal sound system where the end of one bit of the music came and immediately the whole thing started over. I don’t think it was actually how the requiem went, but in my head, it just kept going round in this loop. I’d read the bit in the manual where Berner talks about this sort of thing, and I didn’t have the same experience he describes. I didn’t notice if one note at the end was the same as at the beginning, or anything like that, but as I listened to the end and how it moved back to the start, the connection disintegrated. And that was that. I had this feeling of choice. I could choose to hear the music or not, and I chose not to.

People clearing
Sometimes people go round and round in our minds. Something is sticky about our relationship with these people. We are angry with them, or feel bad about something, and we think about them. We can do something about this. Dealing with people on our own requires concentration. Communicating out loud can work, but so can holding them in our consciousness and allowing ourselves to experience them. We have held out or resisted something about them, so this is not
necessarily comfortable or easy to do. The things we are resisting are often resisted at a deep level, so keeping our attention on them can be hard work. But when it is done, even to a degree, then the relationship with that person will probably be eased. Here is an example:
Melanie: I had a brief flirtation with Richard on a residential workshop and I knew I was a bit fixated on him. I didn’t want to have a relationship with him, but I felt a mixture of embarrassment and anger and betrayal around him and didn’t like to think of him, so I did my best to put him out of my mind. I did fairly well with this, especially as our paths didn’t cross much. But when I knew he was going to be at a conference I was going to, I felt increasingly anxious about it.
The night before I knew I would meet him, I lay in bed, unable to sleep with worry about it. So I decided to act. I brought an image of him to mind and relaxed. I consciously breathed easily and let my limbs release into the mattress as I held the image of Richard at the front of my mind. I found it really difficult. All these feelings of shame and anger came up and my mind wanted to slide off the image and go somewhere more comfortable. But I carried on and it was like burning off the feelings. I kept simply deciding to experience whatever I was feeling and relaxing. I had to keep telling myself that it was only me who was going to know about the stuff that came up. That helped.
At the time I didn’t feel any better. In fact, in some ways I felt worse and, after quite a while, decided it was a waste of time, and I must have gone to sleep. But the next day, when I arrived at the conference, I met Richard quite early on and it was great. I could tell immediately that I didn’t feel anything of what I’d felt before. It was completely OK. I actually noticed for the first time that Richard seemed to be feeling some awkwardness around me. I felt perfectly friendly but also pretty much uninterested.

Surrender Meditation P214

臣服冥想8
伯納遇見斯瓦米·克里帕盧后不久，他問他的老師是否可以 開始 投降冥想。9 克里帕魯同意了。 這是他提供的 最先進的 實踐，斯瓦米·克里帕魯對大多數人的能力持懷疑 態度， 包括他自己的許多學生， 以正確保持實踐。10 然而，當一個學生要求被啟蒙時，克里帕魯寧願 服從，並與伯納或約格什瓦爾·穆尼一起 這樣做，因為 那時他 已經 給了
他的出離心或桑雅生的名字。 從那時起，伯納將投降冥想作為他的主要練習，並將其教授 給他的學生。
最終目的 在印度傳統中，投降是啟蒙，但很少有人 能做到這一點。 然而，許多人練習投降， 並從 中發現巨大的價值和洞察力。 這 印度教傳統並不是唯一將投降視為最高紀律的傳統。 大多數（如果不是全部的話） 所有宗教的神秘之心都以某種形式提供這一教導。為 例如，日本本土宗教神道教的核心是實踐 臣服於神，稱為Furube（搖晃）或Reido（靈魂工作）。11 基督教的神聖 基督死後，聖靈「附身」了基督的門徒，表現在他們說 方言上，並被呼召 潔淨。12 蘇菲派的“舞蹈”與這種對神聖能量的臣服有關。池 龔提供了一種自發的，通常是世俗的練習。 還有 更多 可以發現投降的情況被制定為 宗教或抽象為健康 中國等技術 布奇13 或日本的 勝原撤銷做法。14
可以認為，因為投降是一種 不做而不是做 的做法，它應該是 第一個和 最容易 學習的紀律，也是 處理 生活困難的最快最簡單的 方法。 但那 將是誤解我們所處的情況。我們不能輕易繞過神經質結構。他們必須是 系統地完成之前的工作 投降是可能的，更不用說可取了。
神秘主義者最後投降 是有原因 的，為什麼斯瓦米·克里帕盧不情願 啟動他的學生。臣服是有紀律的自我投降。自我必須是 足夠制服，不會接管 投降過程 並將其 用於 自己的目的。

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Surrender Meditation8
Soon after Berner met Swami Kripalu, he asked his teacher if he could be initiated into Surrender Meditation9 and Kripalu consented. This was the most advanced practice he offered and Swami Kripalu was sceptical about the ability of most people, including many of his own students, to maintain the practice correctly.10 Nevertheless, when a student asked to be initiated, Kripalu preferred to comply and did so with Berner, or Yogeshwar Muni, for by then he had been given
his renunciate or sannyasin name. From this time on, Berner made Surrender Meditation his main practice and taught it to his students.
The ultimate purpose of surrender in the Indian traditions is enlightenment, but few people reach this. Many, however, practise surrender and find enormous value and insight from doing so. The Hindu traditions are not the only ones to regard surrender as the highest discipline. Most, if not all, of the mystical hearts of all religions offer this teaching in some form. For example, Shinto, the native Japanese religion, has at its heart the practice of surrender to the divine, called furube (shaking) or reido (soul work).11 Christianity’s Holy Spirit ‘possessed’ Christ’s disciples after his death manifested in their speaking in tongues and is called upon to cleanse.12 Sufi ‘dancing’ is connected with this surrender to divine energy. Chi gong offers a spontaneous, usually secular practice. There are many more instances where surrender can be found instituted into a religion or abstracted into health techniques such as the Chinese Buqi13 or the Japanese practice of Katsugen Undo.14
It might be supposed that, because surrender is a non-doing rather than a doing practice, it should be the first and easiest discipline to learn and the fastest and simplest way to deal with life’s difficulties. But that would be to misunderstand the situation in which we are. We cannot bypass neurotic structures so easily. They must be systematically worked through before surrender is possible, let alone desirable.
There is a reason why the mystics left surrender for last and why Swami Kripalu was reluctant to initiate his students. Surrender is the disciplined surrender of self. The ego must be sufficiently subdued to not take over the process of surrender and use it for its own purposes.

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身體和情緒清除
伯納的大部分工作都與 思想有關，並利用智力和溝通來取得進步。 像大多數西方治療一樣 實踐 它傾向於 優先考慮思考和說話。然而，他確實很欣賞 人類經驗中其他元素的重要性，並理解 它們之間的關係。
身體部分儲存 抵制創傷、不理解和不溝通 它的結構，隨著時間的推移 ，如果他們 不釋放，表現為扭曲和疾病。事實上，意義 結構的產生是因為我們希望與毛氈保持距離 不適。所以身體的張力與心靈密切相關。正因為 如此，可以通過 身體 釋放 一些 心，反之亦然 。
在我們的發展中，只要 對另一個人有任何情緒上的不安，它被感覺為一種身體感覺。 結果， 身體會因為不需要的感覺 被抵制而緊張。 我們可能只
無限緊張，也許只有幾根肌肉纖維， 但除非那一小部分是 經歷和接受，緊張區域將留在體內，通常在 潛意識層面。1 所以現在，雖然 緊張的區域可能只有 很小，但呼吸已經發生了變化， 重心已經移動，通常略微向上移動， 情緒場有小的扭曲 這反映 在身體上 。
帕坦伽利還指出， 呼吸中斷是健康情況不佳的標誌，也是進步的障礙，因為它會分散注意力。2 一個 呼吸模式的改變起初可能是一個 很小的弱點，但它對其他一切都有影響，包括一個人 如何 移動。 特別的 失真的特徵與特定的想法有關 在與被抵制的事件有關的頭腦中形成。身體扭曲和相關 的想法一起產生共鳴。
圍繞最初的障礙 呼吸和由此產生的緊張，其他緊張累積。這將 發生得快或慢，或多或少地根據 但是每當有 另一個事件 被抵制時，緊張就會 圍繞原來的 弱點 建立起來，並越來越成為一個明顯的特徵，一個明顯的 緊張區域或 身體 的實際 扭曲。 跟 經驗，我們可以看到反映在一個人的運動和呼吸方式上的“個性”。 因此，心靈和身體不能真正被視為 分離的， 儘管我們做出這種區分是為了 最經濟地處理 它們。
身體受到以下因素的影響 外部影響和內部影響。 有 遺傳傾向，遺傳 變化和環境因素，包括社會和身體因素， 所有這些都 也影響身體，因此對心靈也有影響 。 我們受到衰老、疾病和事故 的影響。從大局來看，可能有一些意義 這些影響，但我們 大多數人永遠不會如此深入地瞭解世界。所以 我們可能無法 完全整理 身體，但很多 身體 的壓力 和緊張在我們的 控制範圍內。
我們可以把意識帶到 在身體和情感層面上持有和抵抗的東西。冥想 專注於身體，如 內觀，將意識帶到 身體。很多時候，在做這個或任何 類似做法的過程中 ，一個人 會經歷
相當大的疼痛和不適。 這是因為我們將意識帶到無意識和抗拒的區域 。
通過願意 在身體層面上體驗阻力 ，就會自動 理解什麼以及為什麼堅持。身體可以 改變 有時戲劇性地 ，結果， 精神 領域可能會消失。3
情緒清除來自 伯納 研究如何處理 情緒，實際上是態度的組成部分， 固定在身體層面 ，僅通過心靈清除很難獲得 。這 是 因為他 發現，當心靈 已經處理到合理的程度時 ，那麼身體和 持有的情緒通常代表 人們的下一個挑戰。在他期間 正在考慮如何處理 情緒，他遇到了 賈諾夫的原始尖叫4 療法 在早期，這也與戴尼提有聯繫。5
伯納立即明白了 亞諾夫已經找到了 他自己許多 問題的答案。 然而，儘管人們通常會 體驗到極大的解脫，在某些時候他們會卡住，有時感覺更糟 ，因為他們被固定在一個 位置上， 一遍又一遍地表達同樣的事情。 他看到了 感受 身體 情緒並表達它們的原則 的價值，並加入了類似的 技術融入到他自己的作品中，但 為了防止人們陷入困境而增加了它。 放入通信 具體的資訊，比如他在《心靈清除》中開發的資訊，打破了這些固定的迴圈，使 人們要釋放捕捉到的情緒，而不是讓他們騎自行車。 因此，伯納將情緒清除變成了一種處理 身體和情緒的可行方法，並增加了一個 他的作品集的重要 工具。6

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The body and Emotion Clearing
Much of Berner’s work has to do with the mind and uses the intellect and communication to make progress. Like most Western therapeutic practices it tends to prioritise thinking and speaking. However, he did appreciate the importance of other elements of the human experience and understood the relationships between them.
The body stores partially resisted traumas, non-understandings and non-communications in its structure that, over time and if they are not released, manifest as distortion and sickness. In fact, meaning structures came about because of our wish to distance ourselves from felt discomfort. So the body’s tension is intimately related to the mind. Because of this, it is possible to free some of the mind through the body, as well as the other way around.
In our development, as soon as there is any kind of emotional upset with another person, it is felt as a physical sensation. As a result, the body tenses as the unwanted sensation is resisted. We may only
tense infinitesimally, maybe only in a few muscle fibres, but unless that small part is experienced and received, the area of tension will remain in the body, often at a subconscious level.1 So now, although the tense area may only be very small, the breathing has changed, the centre of gravity has shifted, usually slightly upwards, and there is a small distortion in the emotional field that is reflected in the body.
Patanjali also noted that disrupted breathing is a sign of poor health and a barrier to progress as it is a distraction.2 A change in the breathing pattern may at first be a tiny area of weakness, but it has an effect on everything else including how a person moves. The particular characteristics of the distortion are related to the particular idea that formed in the mind in relation to the event that was resisted. The body distortion and related idea resonate together.
Around that initial hitch in the breath and the resulting tension, other tensions accumulate. This will happen quickly or slowly, and to greater or lesser degrees according to the person, but every time there is another event that was resisted, the tension will build up around that original weak point and become more and more of a marked trait, a noticeable area of tension or an actual distortion in the body. With experience, we can see the ‘personality’ reflected in how a person moves and breathes. The mind and body, thus, cannot really be seen as separate, though we make that distinction in order to deal with them most economically.
The body is affected by outside influences as well as internal ones. There are inherited tendencies, genetic changes and environmental factors, both social and physical, that all affect the body too and so have an effect on the mind. We are subject to ageing, diseases and accidents. In the bigger picture there may be some meaning in these influences, but most of us will never understand the world at that depth. So we might well not be able to sort the body out entirely, but a lot of the stress and tensions held in the body are within our control.
We can bring consciousness to what is held and resisted at a physical and emotional level. Meditations that focus on the body, such as vipassana, bring consciousness to the body. Very often, in the process of doing this or any similar practice, a person will experience
considerable pain and discomfort. This is because we bring awareness to areas that are unconscious and resisted.
Through being willing to experience the resistance at a body level, understanding will arise, automatically, about what has been held out and why. The body can change, sometimes dramatically, as a result, and areas of mind can fall away.3
Emotion Clearing came out of Berner’s research into how to deal with the emotions, and indeed components of attitudes, fixed at a body level that are difficult to access through Mind Clearing alone. This was because he found that when the mind has been dealt with to a reasonable extent, then the body and held emotions typically represents the next challenge for people. During the period in which he was considering how to deal with emotions, he came across Janov’s Primal Scream4 therapy, which had also been connected, early on, with Dianetics.5
Berner immediately understood that Janov had hit upon an answer to many of his own questions. However, although people would commonly experience great relief, at some point they would become stuck, sometimes feeling worse as they became fixed in a position and a cycle of expressing the same thing over and over. Seeing value in the principle of feeling the emotions in the body and expressing them, he incorporated a similar technique into his own work but added to it in order to prevent people from getting stuck. Putting in the communication of a specific message, such as he had developed in Mind Clearing, broke these fixed cycles and enabled people to release the caught emotions and not keep them cycling. Thus, Berner turned Emotion Clearing into a workable way of dealing with the body and emotions, and added an important tool to his portfolio.6

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心智清除專案
儘管如此，心靈清除是一個製作精美的説明工具 。 有了它，我們可以處理人類狀況的相當多的 認知層。 它遠遠超出了一輪智力變革 的想法。 頭腦是我們 賦予其他中性事物和事件的意義 。 但是，這些觀念所具有的任何現實都與我們對現實的物質體驗有著內在的聯繫， 所以只處理 智力不會改變任何事情。 例如，心靈和身體之間的區別，
至少從十七世紀開始，西方思想和醫學就如此 強大， 可以通過依次檢查元素來實現變革，但它是 最終基於 錯誤的二分法。 身心 是不能 分開的。
查找和交付 將一系列固定的態度和意義鎖定在原地的資訊可以解鎖直接進入 身體和情緒的模式，並與 整個人產生共鳴。 資訊被識別 得越精確，傳遞得越充分，與個人的共鳴就越大， 而且 從 認知 結構以及身體緊張和情緒保持中釋放出來。
由於這項工作，身體可以而且確實會發生變化 。 長期存在的緊張局勢 與扣留的通信發佈 以及最終完成和完成的通信 相關聯。認知，或思想，是大廈的一部分 人類的狀況被鎖定在原地。 從思想的暴政中解脫出來是一種非常真實的自由。

頭腦清醒的結果 隨著頭腦清醒，我們可以期待成為一個偉大的 交易更自由 喋喋不休和潛意識的動機。 大部分的喋喋不休，以及 因為潛意識思維使我們停留在過去而不是現在，它包括未完成 的交流和思想層 層堆積在腦海中， 使我們離 現在。 當我們完成這些溝通時，我們允許事件 成為過去，我們越來越多地到達 此時此地。 頭腦中可以喋喋不休的更少 了。 當我們越來越多地從一個明確我們是誰的地方 行事時， 我們在這裡，更原始，更有創意，更投入。我們會發現 我們目前困擾我們的問題更少或沒有，因為我們 能夠在 這些問題 出現時 處理它們或將它們變成專案而不是問題。 說出 我們以前會隱瞞的東西變成了一個問題 真正的選擇。也許我們有時選擇不 這樣做是最 明智的 做法。 但新的事情是我們知道 什麼 如果我們願意，我們會思考並 可以傳達這些想法。 因此，壓力水準 較低， 思維過程
更清晰，人們更有能力公開 和建設性地應對困難。 從根本上說，過去將不再 是一個 地方 禁區和 當前反應性的原因 ; 關係將是 更容易，更真實和 滿足，就會有免於內疚和僵持的存在方式 的自由。 一些受害國可能永遠消失 了， 那些剩下的人不那麼固定，所以我們 更 自由地選擇 讓他們 離開並尋找其他方式 。
在幫助職業方面，我們是 也總是在 取得的任何進展中尋求穩定性。 頭腦清除 進展的 穩定性與 在直接溝通能力方面取得的收益。 在頭腦清理會議中所做的工作都是 通過一些關鍵元素在 Clearer和客戶之間的關係中結合在一起 的：
◉ 清算溝通 周期強調從Clearer到客戶方向 的關注。 在被看到時，個人被要求做出回應。被看到 使它相應地更容易 客戶在 頭腦中找到自己，並將自己與這種混亂區分開來。
◉ 它要求 客戶去 裡面，有特定的任務。 這個， 客戶端必須執行操作 以定位他們是誰的 穩定點。 從那時起 ， 客戶可以越來越多地區分並做出決定。
◉ 一個動作 的表現將學習嵌入到整個人中 ;它變得真實和途徑 被改變，並製造新的 。
◉ 作為回應 被溝通，所說的話 的真理在真實的關係中得到檢驗， 辨別力被發展出來。
◉ 當回應被傳達時 ， 人越來越 直接地與另一個人相遇 。
◉ 作為回應 被傳達，被隱瞞的思想被呈現，化解，可以進入 過去 ， 不再有助於 大眾的思想。
◉ 隨著 回應的傳達， 客戶越來越多地 從更清晰、更穩定的角度 向外看誰 他們是對他們面前的人。
◉ 收到回應時，並且 承認，未完成的通信， 以及隱瞞的想法和想法，與另一個人一起找到一個休息的地方，一個 想要 理解並在 他們這樣做時明確表示的人。那些隱瞞的想法和想法已經結束了。
◉ 當鑰匙 消息被發現並傳遞，一個保持固定字串的消息 態度到位，那麼整個思想和混亂就不再相關並被停用。
◉ 我和你是 兩個以上。一個人承擔責任，説明另一個人成為 更善於溝通，與 該專案中的其他內容，不僅僅是其各部分的總 和。
這就是 有效的方法。 Clearer增加了 他們與客戶的能力 有關的能力 ，他們共同努力增進理解。 這種物質收益，或其中的一部分，被帶入 了日常生活。 這 個人脫穎而出，從思維的 自動思維 中解放出來，達到他們交流和呈現的程度 自己並被接收。
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Mind Clearing is a beautifully crafted tool for help, nonetheless. With it we can deal with a considerable amount of the cognitive layer of the human condition. It goes far beyond an intellectual changing round of ideas. The mind is the meaning we ascribe to otherwise neutral things and events. But any reality those ideas have is intrinsically linked to our material experience of reality, so dealing only in the intellect will change nothing. The distinction between mind and body, for example,
so powerful in Western thought and medicine since at least the seventeenth century, can be useful for achieving change by examining elements in turn, but it is ultimately based on a false dichotomy. Mind and body cannot be separated.
Finding and delivering the message that is keeping a series of fixed attitudes and meanings locked in place unlocks patterns that key straight into the body and emotions, and resonates with the whole person. The more precisely the message is identified and the more fulsomely delivered, the greater the resonation with the individual and the deeper the release from structures of cognition, as well as body tensions and emotional holding.
The body can and does change as a result of this work. Long-held tensions associated with withheld communications release, along with the communications that are finally fulfilled and finished. Cognition, or the mind, is keeping part of the edifice of the human condition locked in place. Freedom from the tyranny of the mind is a very real freedom.

Results to expect from Mind Clearing With Mind Clearing we can expect to become a great deal freer from mind chatter and subconscious motivations. Much of that chatter, as well as the subliminal thinking that keeps us in the past rather than present, consists of the unfinished communications and layers of ideas stacking up in the mind and taking us further and further from the now. As we fulfil those communications we allow events to become the past and we arrive more and more in the here and now. There is less for the mind to chatter about. As we act more and more from a clear place of who we are, we are more here, more original, more creative and more engaged. We will find we have fewer or no current problems nagging us, as we are able to deal with these as they arise or turn them into projects rather than problems. Saying what we would previously have withheld becomes a matter of real choice. Maybe we choose not to do so at times as the wisest course of action. But the new thing is that we know what we think and could communicate those thoughts if we chose. Consequently, stress levels are lower, thought processes
clearer and people more empowered to meet difficulties openly and constructively. Fundamental to this, the past will no longer be a place of no-go areas and a cause of present reactivity; relationships will be easier, more authentic and fulfilling, and there will be freedom from guilt and stuck ways of being. Some victim states may be gone for good and those that remain are less fixed, so we are freer to choose to let them go and find other ways to be.
In helping professions we are also always looking for stability in any progress made. The stability of progress in Mind Clearing is in direct proportion to the gains made in the ability to communicate directly. The work done in Mind Clearing sessions all works through a number of key elements coming together within the relationship between Clearer and client:
◉ The clearing communication cycle emphasises the attention that goes in the direction from Clearer to client. In being seen, the individual is called on to respond. Being seen makes it correspondingly easier for the client to find themselves within the mind and differentiate themselves from that muddle.
◉ It asks the client to go inside, with specific tasks. To do this, the client must perform an action to locate the stable point of who they are. From that point, the client can increasingly differentiate and make decisions.
◉ The performance of an action embeds the learning into the whole person; it is made real and pathways are changed, and new ones are made.
◉ As the response is communicated, the truth of what is said is tested in real relationship and discernment is developed.
◉ As the response is communicated, the person gets themselves across more and more directly to another person.
◉ As the response is communicated, the thoughts withheld are presented, defused and can go into the past and no longer contribute to the mass of mind.
◉ As the response is communicated, the client increasingly looks out from a clearer, stable point of who they are to the person in front of them.
◉ As the response is received and acknowledged, the unfinished communications, as well as the withheld ideas and thoughts, find a resting place with another person, one who wants to understand and makes it clear when they have done so. Those withheld thoughts and ideas are done with.
◉ When a key message is uncovered and delivered, one that is keeping strings of fixed attitudes in place, then whole chunks of mind and muddle cease to be relevant and are deactivated.
◉ Me and you are more than two. One person taking on the responsibility to help the other become better at communicating, engaging with the other in that project, is more than the sum of its parts.
This is what works. The Clearer adds their abilities in relating to that of the client and they work together towards greater understanding. This material gain, or a part of it, is taken forward into ordinary life. The individual comes to the fore, freer from the automatic thinking of the mind to the extent they have communicated and presented themselves and been received.

step 3

步驟 3







第三步：瞭解客戶溝通的內容並讓他們知道 清算溝通週期的第三步包括清除者執行的兩個動作：1）理解客戶所說的話和2）讓客戶知道

他們已經理解了。這是直截了當的，但要正確實現它，又有令人驚訝的陷阱需要避免。

如果客戶不知道他們被聽到和理解，即使他們是，進展也會減慢並最終停止。他們正在付出很多努力和善意來遵守指示，如果他們開始不確定他們是否真的被理解，或者如果Clearer似乎對他們正在共同做的事情所付出的努力有點隨意，那麼客戶最終將停止合作。他們可能會持續一段時間，因為他們想建立良好的關係，但會議會惡化。必須



準確地承認該人在遵守所給予的特定指示時所說的話。

越是有經驗的“清晰”，這一點就越清晰，因為不理解的人會感到不穩定。在任何一種情況下，清除者都需要對客戶說他們沒有聽到或不理解。他們需要要求客戶重複他們所說的話或更全面地解釋，直到清除者瞭解合規性。然後，清除者必須清楚地向客戶表明他們已經理解了。

我記得有一次我真的很累，分心了。我飄忽不定地想著我試圖處理的一些建築工作。這隻是幾秒鐘，但我真的離開了房間。我看著我的客戶，但那幾個節拍沒有看到她。當我回過頭來時，她正看著我，顯然說了一些重要的話。她淚流滿面地說：「我以前從未意識到我媽媽。我感覺很糟糕。我意識到我錯過了一些潛在的大事。我感到羞愧，我猶豫了。我不想承認我沒有聽到，但我知道我必須這樣做，否則我們會繼續下去，這將是一場鬧劇。所以我說，『對不起，我沒有明白，請你再說一遍。我想她有點驚訝，因為我通常很警覺，但她又說了一遍，我明白了，謝天謝地，我做到了。在這一點上，會議確實有點搖擺不定，我們可能需要幾分鐘才能再次獲得信任，但如果我放手並假裝我聽到了她的話，情況會更糟。



Clearer應該避免說客戶的回答或解釋他們所說的話。這可能非常誘人，看起來無害，甚至積極有説明。這是一些談話療法的常見方式，並在這些框架內宣導完全連貫的原因。但最好不要在這裡這樣做。向客戶重複一些事情，即使你只是和他們一起檢查他們所說的話，也是有風險的。太容易犯錯了。即使是一個不合適的詞或不正確的強調也可能向客戶


發出你
沒有理解它們的信號。這樣做的結果可能是不得不對 r 進行維修興高采烈。

有時，客戶傳達了一些不清楚的東西，而更清晰的人可能會認為他們正在幫助重複它，但更清楚。這是一個錯誤。即使Clearer是對的，它也已經成為客戶的洞察力，如果Clearer以更好的形式為他們重複它，客戶從自己那裡獲得並從中學習的機會就會減少。

馬克辛真的在為她的人生目標而掙扎，並試圖說出是什麼給了她一種意義感。她談論了很多她小時候喜歡的東西，包括陶器，以及她成年後上過的陶藝課，以及她喜歡手上的感覺和她可以工作的表情的方式。

珍妮特關注著這一切，並在必要時提示馬克辛。當馬克辛表達了她以前從未告訴過任何人的快樂時，這在某些地方非常情緒化，珍妮特非常投入。所以有一次，當馬克辛試圖用她的雙手說出她的創造力以及她是誰時，她認為她在幫助馬克辛，並說：“我明白你在說什麼，你是個陶藝家。但馬克辛看著她，相當震驚：「不，這根本不是我的意思。我不在乎我這輩子是否再也不會做任何陶器，這不是我要說的。珍妮特意識到她一直在得出自己的結論，並在馬克辛的嘴裡說了一些話，這些話與她真正想要探索和解釋的東西相去甚遠。



也許更誘人的是，當Clearer認為他們可以看到客戶在他們的案件中缺少的一個關鍵點，並試圖告訴他們。雖然在少數情況下這樣做可能會有所説明，但不說什麼要安全得多。首先，Clearer很容易出錯，這將向客戶發出信號，表明他們根本不被理解。最好，也可能更通常是正確的，假設一個人對人們案件的原因有誤。即使清澈者是對的，也不行說出來。如果Clearer對客戶的案例有洞察力並告訴他們，它就會剝奪客戶自己的過程和他們對自己情況的理解的發展



。Clearer也可能過於超前於客戶自己的理解，這隻會導致混亂。

我在一個客戶合作時犯了一個錯誤。他很難與前妻接觸他們的孩子，在我看來，這似乎很明顯，他責怪她，在許多情況下，他主要是自己發起的事情。例如，他告訴我她是多麼的控制欲和困難，但是當他談到自己的行為和他對婚姻的期望時，我可以看到他非常控制自己。

我們花了很多精力與她溝通，就好像她在場一樣，多年的苦澀堆積起來。他偶爾會表達自己的遺憾，並談論她是一個好母親，但這隻是憤怒引發的指責交流中的時刻。我意識到他必須這樣做才能繼續前進，所以我們談論了這件事，他意識到他有很多需要表達的挫敗感。然而，一些麻煩是E實際上並沒有練習談論他實際如何體驗生活，所以這一切都是向外的。在一次會議結束時，我建議他看一本關於親密關係中溝通的書。我以為他會從那裡的資訊中得到一些東西，他認為這是一個好主意。但在我們下一次會議前一周，我收到了他的一封電子郵件。他感謝我的推薦，但說這本書對他沒有好處。他已經很善於溝通了;是他的前妻需要做得更好。

我意識到我犯了錯誤。我原以為他的情況至少部分清楚，但事實並非如此。最後，我認為我既是對的，也是錯的。他確實需要更好地真正傳達他在人際關係中發生的事情，他確實在這方面有所改進。但我也沒有足夠認真地對待他釋放憤怒和痛苦的真正需要。我不尊重他，認為我最瞭解他，並意識到我一直在幽默他。當我放棄這個時，感覺我們真的開始一起工作，他開始



敞開心扉，講述他對婚姻失敗的絕望以及這對他意味著什麼。



對於客戶來說，知道他們想要傳達的內容並傳達這一點是關鍵。為他們做這件事無濟於事。看起來似乎令人憤怒的是，他們懸在一個巨大的啟示的邊緣，而清除者可能渴望揭示它。他們可能是正確的，知道它可能會改變客戶的生活，但如果為他們完成工作，他們需要更長的時間才能獲得並擁有它。Clearer可能處於正確的位置，但客戶有自己的說話方式，重要的是要這樣做。

向客戶解釋合規性太接近於評估他們所傳達的內容。要求合規的任務旨在提高客戶的聯繫能力並更清楚地了解他們的想法。正確判斷他們需要說什麼或將要說什麼或已經說過什麼無濟於事，也不是重點。他們不會因為任何試圖重複他們對他們說過的話而學到任何東西，他們可能會失去一些東西。如果Clearer不確定客戶說了什麼，他們應該要求他們重複一遍，即使冒著看起來很愚蠢或不聽的風險。他們會變得更清楚，甚至可能學到更多的東西，更清晰的人也會變得更清楚，而不必事後猜測他們或冒犯錯誤的風險。如果擔心他們可能會發現被要求重複它很煩人，那麼應該解釋原因。了解為什麼要做某事的人通常很樂意繼續。

清算溝通週期的四個步驟是：

1.清除者向客戶傳達清晰的想法。

2. 客戶按照要求去做。

3. 客戶回應並傳達遵守指示或回答問題的結果。

4. 更清晰的人傾聽、理解並明確表示這已經完成。


在思維清除進度中使用清除

通信週期不會由只是說話和講故事的人發生。那不行。它必須是回應你並遵循你的指示的結果。這就是解開生活的結，解開頭腦中的懸念。它很漂亮。14

遵循清晰的溝通週期會帶來真正的進步，因為它將兩個人之間的明確理解付諸實踐並使其具體化。這就是導致重大轉變並溶解思想的魔力。

無需評估或診斷用戶端。如果清算溝通週期應用良好，客戶將自己完成所有需要的評估。當然，對客戶進行一些評估對於決定與他們合作以及如何工作是不可避免的和必要的。一個人需要善於評估才能擅長頭腦清醒，但這仍然不是將客戶診斷為一種類型;這不是有説明的。

在清算會話中，重點是完成清算溝通週期，並幫助該人傳達被扣留的內容以及他們所有異常行為實際上以扭曲的形式說的話。因此，內容很重要，以至於人們發現很難傳達它。

在頭腦清除中有一些特定的方法來處理問題領域，例如抑鬱，創傷，邊界違規，當前問題和關係問題。在這些領域內，必須保持週期清晰，作為説明的引擎。然而，重點仍然是個人及其表達自己、通過內容和儘管內容的能力。這是許多談話療法的重點的重要轉變，並且與哲學立場密切相關，即有一個我們可以而且必須與之合作的人。

將溝通過程分解為各個組成部分，並確保每個組成部分都得到滿足，這是清算的一個重要説明方面。儘管用技巧執行它涉及許多微妙之處，


但這個迴圈中的核心是重複的，直到客戶能夠與他人交流而不需要替代的想法和行為。在尋找順從並學會將它們清楚地傳達給真正想知道的人時，頭腦開始消解，因為它存在的原因開始分崩離析。

這個迴圈指向並加強個人。通過必須找到可以做觀察工作的人，客戶必須開始向內看，以便從他們的穩定點向外看。許多人需要仔細指導如何看，但這得益於 Clearer 針對個人並保持周期清潔。通過這種方式，心靈清除通過找到一個槓桿點來轉移思想的品質。




The third step: understanding what the client has communicated and letting them know

The third step in the clearing communication cycle consists of two actions performed by the Clearer: 1) understanding what the client has said and 2) letting the client know they have understood. This is straightforward but, once more, there are a surprising number of pitfalls to be avoided for it to be properly achieved.

If the client does not know they were heard and understood, even if they were, progress will slow down and finally stop. They are putting a lot of effort and goodwill into complying with the instructions and, if they start to be uncertain as to whether they are really being understood, or if the Clearer seems a bit offhand about the effort they are putting into what they are doing together, then the client will stop co-operating eventually. They may well carry on for a while because they want to have good relations, but sessions will deteriorate. It must



be acknowledged precisely what the person said in complying with the particular instruction given.

The more experienced a Clearer is, the more this becomes clear because a non-understanding will feel wonky. In either case the Clearer will need to say to the client that they did not hear or did not understand. They will need to ask the client to repeat what they said or explain it more fully until the Clearer understands the compliance. The Clearer must then indicate to the client, clearly, that they have understood.

I remember a time when I was really tired and distracted giving a session. I drifted off with a thought about something I was trying to handle around some building work I was having done. This was just for a couple of seconds, but I was really gone from the room. I was looking at my client but wasn’t seeing her for those few beats. And when I snapped back, she was looking at me and had clearly said something of import. She was tearful and said, ‘I never realised that before about my mum. I feel terrible.’ And I realised I’d missed some potentially huge thing. I was mortified, and I hesitated. I hated to admit I hadn’t heard it, but I knew I had to or we’d carry on and it would be a farce. So I said something like, ‘I’m sorry, I didn’t get that, would you repeat it please.’ I think she was a bit surprised, as I’m usually pretty alert, but she said it again and I got it, and thank goodness I did. The session did wobble a bit at that point, and it took us probably a few minutes to secure that trust again, but it would have been a whole lot worse had I just let it go and pretended I’d heard her.



The Clearer should avoid saying the client’s responses back to them or paraphrasing what they have said. This can be very tempting to do and seems so harmless or even actively helpful. It is a common way of proceeding in some talk therapies and advocated for perfectly coherent reasons within those frameworks. But it is better not to do it here. Repeating something back to a client, even if you are just checking out with them what they said, is risky. It is too easy to be wrong. Even one word out of place or an incorrect emphasis may signal to the client you



have not understood them. The result of this could be having to make repairs to the relationship.

Sometimes a client communicates something unclearly and the Clearer may think they are being helpful in repeating it back, but more clearly. This is a mistake. Even if the Clearer is right, it has become the client’s insight and if the Clearer repeats it for them in better shape, there is less chance of the client sourcing it from themselves and learning from it.

Maxine was really struggling with some stuff around her purpose in life and trying to say what it was that gave her a sense of meaning. She was talking a lot about the things she’d enjoyed as a child, including pottery, and the pottery classes she had taken as an adult and the way she liked the feel in her hands and the expression with which she could work.

Janet was following all of this and prompting Maxine as necessary. It was quite emotional in places as Maxine expressed pleasures she had never told anyone about before and Janet was very engaged. So at one point, when Maxine was trying to say something about her creativity with her hands and what that said about who she was, she thought she was helping Maxine and said, ‘I understand what you’re saying, you’re a potter.’ But Maxine looked at her, quite shocked: ‘No, that’s not what I mean at all. I don’t care if I never do any pottery again in my life, that’s not what I’m saying.’ Janet realised she had been drawing her own conclusions and had put words into Maxine’s mouth that were quite a distance from what she was actually trying to explore and explain.



Perhaps even more tantalising is when the Clearer thinks they can see a key point the client is missing about their case and is tempted to tell them. While in a small minority of cases it may help to do so, it is far safer not to say anything. First, the Clearer could easily be wrong and this will signal to the client that they are not understood at all. It is best, and probably more usually correct, to assume one is wrong about the causes of people’s cases. Even if the Clearer is right, it is not OK to say it. If the Clearer has an insight about the client’s case and tells them, it robs the client of their own process and the development of their



own understanding about their situation. The Clearer may also be too far ahead of the client’s own understanding and it will simply lead to confusion.

I made a mistake working with one client. He was having difficulties dealing with his ex-wife over access to their children and it seemed so obvious to me that he was blaming her for what were, in many instances, things he had mostly initiated himself. He told me how controlling and difficult she was, for instance, but when he spoke about his own behaviour and what he had expected of the marriage, I could see that he was very controlling himself.

We worked a lot with communicating to her as though she was present and there were years of bitterness stacked up. He occasionally expressed his regrets and talked about her being a good mother, but these were just moments in what was otherwise an anger-fuelled communication of blame. I realised he had to do this before he could move on, so we talked about it and he recognised that he was holding on to a lot of frustration that needed to be expressed. Some of the trouble, however, was that he was actually not practised at talking about how he actually experienced life, so it was all directed outwards. At the end of one session I suggested he look at a book that deals with communication in intimate relationships. I thought he would get something out of the information in there, and he thought this was a good idea. But during the week before our next session, I got an email from him. He thanked me for the recommendation but said the book was no good for him. He was already good at communicating; it was his ex-wife who needed to get better at it.

I realised the mistake I’d made. I had assumed his case was at least partly clear to him, but it wasn’t at all. In the end, I think I was both right and wrong. He did need to get better at really communicating what was going on for him in relationships and he did improve at this. But I had also not taken seriously enough his real need to discharge his anger and pain. I had disrespected him in thinking I knew best and realised I had been humouring him. As soon as I dropped this, it felt like we really began



to work together and he started to open up about how desperate he felt about the marriage failing and what it meant to him.



It is key for the client to know what they want to communicate and to get that across. Doing it for them will not help. It might seem infuriatingly obvious that they are hanging on the edge of a huge revelation and the Clearer might be itching to reveal it. They might be correct and it might change the client’s life to know it, but it will take them much longer to get it and own it if the work is done for them. The Clearer might be in the right ballpark, but clients have their own way of saying things, and it is important to go with that.

Paraphrasing a compliance back to the client is too close to evaluating what they have communicated. The task of asking for a compliance is designed to improve the client’s ability to relate and become clearer about what they think. Being right about what they need to say or are going to say or have said does not help and is not the point. They will learn nothing by anyone trying to repeat what they have said back to them, and they might lose something. If the Clearer is not sure about what the client said, they should ask them to repeat it, even at the risk of seeming to be stupid or not to have been listening. They will get clearer and maybe even learn something more, and the Clearer will also get clearer without having to second-guess them or risk making an error. If the fear is they might find it irritating to be asked to repeat it, then the reason should be explained. People who understand why something is being done are usually happy to continue.

The four steps of the clearing communication cycle are:

1. The Clearer gets a clear thought across to the client.

2. The client does what is asked of them.

3. The client responds and communicates the results of complying with the instruction or responding to the question.

4. The Clearer listens, understands and makes it clear that this has been done.


Using the clearing communication cycle in Mind Clearing

Progress does not take place by the person just talking and telling stories. That won’t do it. It has to be the result of responding to you and following your instruction. That is what untangles the knots of life, the hang-ups in the mind. It is beautiful.14

Following the clearing communication cycle makes for real progress because it puts into steps explicit understanding between two people and makes it concrete. This is the magic that makes for significant shifts and dissolves the mind.

There is no need to assess or diagnose the client. If the clearing communication cycle is applied well, the client will do all the assessment needed themselves. Some assessment of the client is, of course, unavoidable and necessary for deciding what to work on with them and how to do so. A person needs to be good at assessing in order to be good at Mind Clearing, but it is still not about diagnosing the client as a type; that is not what helps.

Within a Clearing session the focus is on completing clearing communication cycles and helping the person communicate what has been withheld and what all their aberrant behaviours are actually saying in distorted form. So content matters to the extent the person finds it hard to communicate it.

There are specific ways within Mind Clearing to approach problem areas, such as depression, trauma, boundary violations, current problems and relationship issues. Within those areas, the cycles must be kept clear as the engine of the help. The focus, however, remains on the individual and their ability to get themselves across, through and despite the content. This is an important shift in emphasis from many talk therapies, and goes hand in hand with the philosophical position that there is an individual with whom we can and must work.

Breaking the communication process into its component parts and seeing that each one is fulfilled is a vital helping aspect of Clearing. Though there are many subtleties involved in carrying it out with skill,


what is going on at the core in this cycle is repeated until the client is able to communicate to others without the need of substitute ideas and behaviours. In finding compliances and learning to deliver them clearly to someone who really wants to know, the mind starts to dissolve because the reason for it being there begins to come apart.

The cycle points to and strengthens the individual. By having to locate the one who can do the work of looking, the client has to start looking in, in order to look out from their point of stability. Many people need careful instruction simply in how to look, but this is helped by the Clearer addressing the individual and keeping the cycles clean. In this way, Mind Clearing shifts the mass of mind by finding a point of leverage.

step 2

步驟 2





第二步： 客戶做他們的事情 已被指示做

第二步，使[頭腦清醒]不同於僅僅相互來回交流， 是個人 你現在正在幫助執行你告訴他做的事情 ，並告訴你 他 因遵守你的指示 而 想出了 什麼。 8

當 客戶 得到 指示並遵守時， 應該可以看到他們已經進入並 尋找 真正的回應。 他們已經這樣做了，他們真誠地尋找 ，然後他們找到了一些東西並 傳達了它。

雷切爾，更清楚的人：事實上， 我和露西一起 檢查 過。 我 吩咐 她'告訴我 她 是什麼時候



快樂。她 似乎真的聽到了我的聲音，然後她會移開視線幾秒鐘 “我記得我 四歲的時候 ，和姐姐在花園裡玩耍。 感覺真的很開心。陽光明媚，我們正在打扮， 跑來跑去笑著。

露西，客戶：瑞秋會給 我像這裡這樣的指示。我花了一點時間才真正 感謝她想要一個直接的答案。 現在這看起來很奇怪，但 實際上一開始看到很奇怪 這才是真正想要的。 我學會了 真正聽到她想要什麼 然後進去尋求對我來說非常真實的回應。有時是 很難說出來，但我逐漸學會了 為我說 真話，就像那樣 和姐姐在一起，快樂。



第二步實際上包括兩個動作：1） 尋找和2）溝通 他們發現了什麼。可能是他們看了看，什麼也找不到。如果發生這種情況，那麼通常情況下 ，這是因為他們被困住了 ，而不是 真的 什麼都沒有 他們已經做了他們認為不應該做的事情 已經做到了。在這種情況下，需要鼓勵他們回去再看一遍，直到他們 想出一些東西，無論大小 。

沒有其他人可以做到這一點 這個人。 學習和進步只能來自自己動手 。 Clearer可能 確定他們知道客戶在摸索什麼。 因為向他們提供這種見解似乎是最有説明的事情。 這是一個錯誤。可以 準確地 解釋他們想要什麼，以及為什麼，需要多少次，以盡可能多的 方式 。

每 [清除溝通週期]必須包含您正在幫助的個人 的行動 。 如果沒有，那麼你 所做的只是 操縱他或與他聊天，這可能是 非常好 和愉快的，但 不會 有任何增加 在 能力。所以他必須按照你的指示採取行動。9



只是偶爾有人會看看裡面做 問了什麼，但他們 什麼也找不到 。 如果他們真的看過，這沒關係。 他們按照吩咐 做了， 並報告了回來。 但大多數情況下會有一些 東西可以聯繫起來， 而清除者的工作是看到 他們 清楚地做到這一點。

那裡 很多 東西可能會 在第二步出錯。 例如，一些 人們很容易偏離切線，不回答問題或指示。 在日常的談話中，這種情況一直在 進行 ;他們可能會陷入隨意的聯繫中。 思潮。10 人們被另一件事 提醒，觸發第三件事 東西，等等 。 這是有道理的 ，因為一件事與 下一個; 但這些是鏈條，11 它們在頭腦中 是隨機相關的。 這些聯繫是沒有意義的，傾聽它們，雖然通常是 社會規範， 但如果目的是 實際上是為了提供真正的説明和救濟 從頭腦。

指令可能是 “告訴我 你做了 一些你認為你不應該做的事情，”他們會想到一些事情。或 他們記得他們 踢了貓一次，一直對此感到難過。 他們可能會也可能 不會報告這一點，如果他們沒有，那麼 這本身就是一個問題。 無論如何 ，這個想法可能會引發一個關於貓的故事，然後 也許是一個關於鄰居的貓的故事等等，直到清除者失去了 完全是線程，這個人現在正在談論他們在加勒比海的航海假期和 Clearer正在努力 回到 正題。

這種胡說八道 應儘快停止。 人們最初可能會 有點 驚訝 被打斷，特別是如果他們有其他一些 鼓勵的治療種類 它。儘管如此，他們必須善意但堅定地 被打斷，必須 追求遵守， 否則迴圈 將是 破碎。 合規性和週期 有所説明。 必須 充分表達和理解回應，直到該人完成為止，但不能超過此。 它可能會觸發一些見解，這可能是 陽性。但這是一個 判斷電話。 如果見解 顯然是真正新的東西，並且 對 客戶有價值，那麼 重要的是要聽聽他們要說什麼，並可能鼓勵他們 說 更多的話 放電 它完全來自頭腦。 另一方面 ，可能看起來什麼



最初像切線在某些情況下可能不是 。 有些人 需要時間來解決問題 ，如果他們 被要求 解釋相關性 他們在 說什麼，他們就可以做到。 至少一開始，他們可能會 需要講述整個故事以解釋合規性;它不會 在沒有上下文的情況下對他們來說是完整的。在他們看來，他們的更清晰的需求 瞭解這些背景內容以瞭解 合規性。 人們 在這方面差異很大。 但如果它只是從一個跳躍 想到鏈條中的另一個人，它應該停止。合規性應為 尋求，然後 清除者必須繼續 到下一條指令。

另一個陷阱是 更清楚在他們之前沒有弄清楚 下達了指示，因此客戶不清楚他們想要什麼或沒有 出於其他原因理解它。如果他們不瞭解 指示，清除者有責任 對其進行整理 並 傳達。

有一個 適合 [客戶]水準的好指導是 值得的，但無論指導有多好， 除非您知道自己在追求什麼，否則它將無法正常工作。 確保[用戶端]已經得到了它，確保 [客戶]對他已經回答了這個問題感到滿意，並確保 你準確地看到[客戶]是如何 看到 的。 這是一個 答案或遵守。如果你 不要遵循此程式， 無論問題或說明或 技術是，無論 它多麼合適， 它都不會起作用。 12

或者，用戶端可能會給出 Clearer 不會的 回應 理解為合規性。

清明者下達了指示：「告訴我 一些事情 他們認為他們不應該這樣做。鮑勃對此的回應是：「我 笑了。在這種情況下，Clearer不知道Bob指的是 什麼 ，因此無法 判斷 它是否 合規 。 所以他檢查了一下，果然，鮑勃可以很容易地解釋指令 立刻勾起了嘲笑弟弟的記憶，當他 摔倒了，割傷了他的手，對此感到 內疚。 這是一種 合規 因為 這是他認為 他不應該做的事情



已經做到了。一旦解釋，清除者就明白了， 承認遵守情況。 該週期已完成。



這個人是來尋求説明的，而清除者 只是在那裡 幫助他們。雖然它可能 阻止他們全力以赴似乎並不禮貌，這樣做是在 幫助他們 ，即使他們 發現，他們最終也會感激它 一開始有點不禮貌或奇怪 。 事實上，如果他們不 保持在 直線和狹窄上，他們將很快對更清晰和 過程失去信心 ， 因為讓他們漫無邊際將沒有任何意義 幫助，他們會 在某種程度上知道這一點。

用戶端可能不是 對給出的指示感興趣，並決定回答一些替代指示 自己;如果是這種情況 ， 重新評估目前正在 處理 的領域並找到更符合 該人 所在位置的內容可能是相關的。 但這 也可能 是一種 逃避，因此 追求它 至關重要 ，直到 客戶接近他們正在避免的東西並離開 或者偶爾重新構建正在處理 的問題區域。

Berner 描述 的 最常見的 問題是用戶端：

甚至不考慮、思考或冥想 您的指示，或 他在最膚淺的層面上這樣做。 因為他還沒有學會如何 主觀地或從自己身上執行某事，所以 他沒有 執行指令。13

在這種情況下，必須幫助客戶理解 想要什麼，這樣他們才能做到。他們可能不知道如何 看看裡面。這對他們來說可能根本沒有意義 ，因為他們從未嘗試 過，也沒有人嘗試過。 以前讓他們做 ，那他們怎麼會知道？

客戶向內看和溝通的能力 可能 比人們想像的要差得多。 它們可能表現為調整良好的， 有意識的，有工作能力的個人，有 一份房子和 家庭一切看起來都很正常，但當它歸結為 細節時 諮詢自己並報告 他們實際 發生的事情， 他們處於 未知領域。

如果是這種情況 ，他們將不得不 得到指導，也許是 詳細的 ， 如何向內看並遵守。 有必要從小處著手



並構建。這可能意味著解釋合規性 並且要精確。當很明顯他們正在盡力而為時 向內看並遵守 通過指示並傳達結果 ，這必須 暫時 接受。 清除者可能知道 合規性不完整 ，但下次 會 更深入、更清晰，他們已經開始了， 並且取得了 進展。 這 客戶可能會在會議結束後回家，向他們的配偶解釋更多的事情 比以往任何時候都清楚 以前。這可能是革命性的 他們的家庭。

然而，在某些情況下，這個人可能不會 傳達 出 足以 讓它 被接受為一個 合規。 他們來 參加會議是因為在某種程度上他們 不太擅長溝通。所以，即使他們看過裡面和 想出一個 回應並試圖傳達它，他們可能還沒有把它 傳達到足以 被識別出來。 許多人都是 如此 人。 他們 四處走動，確信他們已經像任何人一樣清楚，但實際上沒有人 真正理解他們在說什麼，沒有人 投入 工作 來試圖 弄清楚 它。 對於這樣的人 ，更 清晰可能並不像 只是擴展 思想; 他們不是 真的很確定他們自己在說什麼。他們需要 説明。

更清晰永遠不應該太 對此嚴格要求。只要溝通能夠被足夠清楚地理解為合規並認識到客戶 正在盡力而為，這應該暫時接受 ; 這是一個 開始。 但幫助他們更清楚地瞭解這一點至關重要 他們在說什麼，並把它們拉出來，直到他們對 自己和 更清晰的人更有意義。

一個很好的例子 對我來說，這是威爾遜。他在生活的某些方面非常有能力， 專業上非常成功。但是當談到某些 他與周圍人的關係存在問題，例如更多 週邊朋友和他認為 在社區中 具有權威的人，他讓自己穿越的能力下降了 戲劇性地，他感到不知所措和壓力，以至於他甚至 努力找出問題所在。 最後，他把它簡化為這樣的東西，“當我感到愚蠢和自我意識時， 我感到愚蠢和自我意識。



我 生命中的一些人必須打交道 。 我們逐漸解決這個問題 ，直到他更 清楚實際發生了什麼。 對他來說，充電水準降低到他可以的程度 在它周圍多放鬆一下，進一步工作到他很少困擾的地方。 它。但首先，對於威爾遜來說，僅僅解決一個可命名的問題 是非常困難的。他 來到會議時，知道他想解決這種困難感， 但是，當我要求他更多地談論 這個問題時，他 張口結舌，發現很難專注於這個問題， 因為它是 所以在他的腦海裡聚集在一起。 最後他說，『有些人 讓我 真的很緊張。 從那時起，我們慢慢地描繪了 在這些情況下發生的事情 ， 更清楚了。



預扣稅是另一個常見問題。事實上，整個問題 的心靈可以 說 是一大問題 扣繳。但是這有不同的層次。原因有很多 當一個人向內看以找到合規性時，他們可能不會 傳達他們 會遇到 什麼。 他們拒絕溝通。例如，他們可能會為自己 所想到的事情感到 羞恥，並認為 如果他們說出來，他們就不會 受到尊重或喜歡。 或者他們可能不說，因為他們認為沒有人 可能 理解; 以前，沒有人明白， 那麼為什麼要 這次眼前的人有什麼 不同嗎？ 或者他們 不完全明白他們遇到了什麼。

出於這些原因之一，他們 不要真正傳達出現的內容，或者他們說了其他內容，或者只有一小部分他們認為會滿足他們的 Clearer 並獲得 他們從他們的背上下來。這裡有充足的出錯機會，因為如果忽略這一點並且 Clearer繼續 接受其中任何一個 作為合規性， 那麼迴圈將被打亂，不會有任何進展。如果這樣，他們會失去信心 不合規是可以接受的，即使這就是它們 提出。他們會在某種程度上知道它，如果它發生得太頻繁，他們可能不會 回來。 無論如何 ， 清除者最終將不得不 稍後傳回 並工作 出了什麼 問題，因為它 是一個



各方之間的 流動中斷 ，它將 阻止 進展

– 也許不完全，但它 會被 堵塞。

詹姆斯在來上課時有很多 扣留 要開始 。 我們逐漸處理了很多潛在的羞恥感。但起初， 他臉上經常會出現一種暗示有什麼事情來了的表情 當我要求他多說一些事情時。 然後他經常 搖搖頭，幾乎不知不覺地，環顧四周， 想 說點別的話 。 他總是盡力 如實回答，但他 經常不說出他腦海中浮現的第一件事。第一件事 經常充滿 焦慮，有時 羞恥。事實上，他非常擔心可能出現 什麼，以至於他迴避 了第一個想法，以防 它們可恥並嚴格審查他的回答。 ，即使他真的想到了 關於它，很難想出他真正感受到的東西 羞。

當我問他首先想到了什麼時，他會說，『啊，沒什麼。 重要。我和他一起努力工作，漸漸地他 開始 表達其中的一部分 ：“哦，我不太喜歡自己。 那次，但我現在結束了，我接受自己』; 甚至 「真的什麼都沒想出來 ，我只是想了想 我以後要 做什麼。 需要一些技巧才能知道要追求這些答案中的哪一個，因為 很明顯他正在盡最大 努力 交流出現的情況 ，並對 他的一些事情感到壓力很大 憋著。

然後，有一天，他進來說 ，『我 決定不說這個， 但我要 無論如何『，然後繼續告訴我 關於他一直隱瞞的過去，關於他的行為方式 一筆令他感到非常羞愧的商業交易。他還告訴我，就 他很擔心，他從來沒有向任何人展示過真實的自己。這對 他。但光是說這些話，他的神態立刻就輕鬆了。他 讓自己穿越的能力 塞申斯，也在他的餘生中，跳躍起來，他的生意也 又開始蓬勃發展。



清除者可以自己破壞迴圈 因為沒有正確傾聽。它們可能是由某些東西觸發的 客戶說要考慮 自己的問題， 例如與母親一起思考， 否則他們可能會分心 考慮他們 晚餐 要 做什麼，或者 他們需要 做賬。 在 無論如何，當客戶交流並且 沒有完全理解或錯過關鍵單詞或短語時，他們會考慮其他事情。 在此 在這種情況下，清明者需要要求他們 再說一遍。

一個人可能沒有 正確傾聽的另一種方式是 他們以一種狹隘的方式傾聽 ，因為他們在判斷客戶在說什麼，甚至可能不是有意識的。

金妮：我意識到我聽到了瑞秋在說什麼 關於她覺得她應該做更多的事情來説明她的母親，但儘管它進入 了我的耳朵，我一直在想，到目前為止， 到目前為止 正如我所擔心的那樣，她做得綽綽有餘。所以我犯了一個錯誤 幾乎摧毀了整個會議。我告訴她，她正在給自己一個真正的 辛苦了，已經為她的母親做了很多事情，也許她應該工作 為自己爭取一些支援。

我一說出來，我就覺得 說 錯了。 瑞秋 用一種奇怪的方式看著我，我看得出來， 我只是沒有認真 地聽我說話。 她真正關心的是什麼。 無論 她 是否明智地審視 自己的 支持系統， 那都不是會議的地方。 在這一點上，對瑞秋來說至關重要 的是 我真的理解她對母親的悲傷和她的存在感 不足。我自己關於什麼是 合理的觀念幾乎 完全遮罩了我面前試圖表達她困難感受的真實人物。 據 我所知， 我是 她傾訴 的第一個人，我去執行一些任務，而不是和她在一起，根本不瞭解 她的情況。 即使 我是 對的，後來 認為瑞秋可以看看 她自己的支持系統是 顯而易見的，但錯誤在於沒有 瞭解她的一切情況並做出自己的 判斷，這是



其實在很多方面都和她的真實大相徑庭 感覺什麼適合她做。



如果Clearer認為客戶並沒有真正按照指示遵守規定，即使客戶可能認為他們是，而Clearer 什麼也沒做 為了阻止這種情況，那麼清除者將變得困倦。他們必須思考 返回。有沒有一些他們 不相信的東西沒有受到挑戰？？

更清楚：告訴我 你特別的態度如何影響你的生活。

客戶：這意味著 我待人更好。更清楚：好的，是的，謝謝。

在這種情況下，Clearer不確定如何擁有 特別的態度，這就是這位客戶認為他所認為的東西 經常的經歷，讓他待人更好。它需要檢查出來。 放手並承認這是面對不確定性時的合規性 會破壞迴圈。



另一方面，如果用戶端正在回應並且 Clearer很高興他們得到了合規性，但客戶並不是真的 相信他們正在提供適當的合規性，那麼 客戶就會昏昏欲睡。 如果發生這種情況，清除者將需要檢查 了解客戶的情況並讓他們解釋 他們的合規性更多，直到兩者都得到 他們完成。

更清晰：告訴我“我很特別”的態度如何影響 生活中的你。

客戶：嗯，我想我在 工作中往往 很積極主動， 並提出新的目標。 專案。

更清楚：謝謝。告訴我另一種方式，以“我很特別” 的態度四處走動會影響你的 生活。

客戶：特別意味著 我更好地對待別人。



更清楚：好的，謝謝。告訴我另一種方式 “我很特別”的態度會影響你的生活。

客戶：嗯...好吧，我想 有時 可能會讓我 有點刻薄......就像當人們 在事情上不如我時，我有時會變得不耐煩。

更清楚：謝謝，是的，我明白了。告訴我另一種方式 “我很特別”的態度會影響你的生活。

客戶：（相當長的停頓）我不確定，真的。我想我以為我在 特別有點傲慢，所以我可能會得罪人。我基本上得到了它 在控制之下，但這聽起來是對的，有些人 被我說的話冒犯了。

更清楚：謝謝。告訴我另一種方式，以“我很特別” 的態度四處走動會影響你的 生活。

客戶：（停頓 時間更長）我不知道，真的。 我不 認為這種態度真的讓我在生活中受到了很多支援。它似乎工作得很好 對我來說大部分時間都很好。

在這種情況下， 聽起來像一片空地 溝通週期，但事實並非如此。 Clearer有一些 以這種態度工作的經驗，所以她借鑒了這一點 以及她自己的案例，並填補 了空白 迴圈 本身。 她明白，到處 認為自己 很特別 會讓你 認為自己 對別人更好，所以這可能是 一個 明確遵守，她犯了一個錯誤，並選擇理解她中的 反應 自己的方式。她沒有檢查出來。



事實上， 客戶 對他的回應 感到 不安 開始。 他給出的順從是他喜歡 認為是真的，但他已經確定這是一種對他 來說是一個問題的態度， 所以呢？ 他是 說是 不符合 的。事實上，他的 Clearer似乎認為沒關係也因為他們擁有的東西而感到困惑 一直在談論這種態度。所以他的判斷感覺很複雜 向上。另一方面，它不需要太多的努力工作 從他那裡，因為他越來越知識化，所以他帶著 上，因為他 渴望 會議 順利進行， 並選擇 假設她


是對的。但當他放鬆到 會議 突然變得如此容易 時，他開始 感到困倦。

有時， 工作階段可能 很難進行，如果清除者放棄 獲取指令 ，會話就會脫軌 給客戶。 週期可能很難 建立，客戶可能 處於 糟糕的狀態， 走長切線，從來沒有真正理解要求他們做什麼 開始理順這種情況。這需要來自更清晰的堅韌和勇氣 ，有時他們實際上放棄 了獲得 對他們的客戶進行 指導。在這種情況下，他們最終可能會得到 足夠愉快的聊天，或者客戶只會從一件事跳到另一件事，但 會話將不起作用。 清除者必須 致力於 說明 用戶端，為此，指令必須清晰，並且必須傳達 ，以便 客戶端獲得並遵守。 實現這一目標需要 多長時間 並不重要。 這就是工作。一旦它回到正軌， 隨著指令的明確，能量會恢復 ，可能已經積累起來的混亂感也會消失。 那種糊塗的感覺就是頭腦。






The second step: the client does what they have been instructed to do

The second step, which makes [Mind Clearing] different than just communicating back and forth to each other, is that the individual you are helping now executes what it is that you told him to do and tells you what he came up with as a result of complying with your instruction.8

When the client has got the instruction and complies, it should be possible to see that they have gone inside and looked for a true response. They have done this, they have looked sincerely and then they find something and they communicate it.

Rachel, the Clearer: I checked it out with Lucy, in fact. I gave her the instruction to ‘Tell me a time she was



happy.’ She seemed to really hear me and then she would look away for a few seconds before responding with something like, ‘I remember when I was about four, playing in the garden with my sister and feeling really happy. The sun was shining and we were dressing up and running round laughing.’

Lucy, the client: Rachel would give me an instruction like the one here. It took me a little while to really appreciate that she wanted a straight answer to her question. Now that seems strange, but it was actually strange to start with to see that this was really what was wanted. I learned to really hear what she wanted and then go inside for a response that was really true for me. Sometimes it was difficult to say it, but I gradually learned to just say the truth for me, like that time with my sister and being happy.



Step two actually consists of two actions: 1) looking and 2) communicating what they found. It might be that they looked and could not find anything. If this happens, then more often than not, it is because they are stuck rather than there really is nothing they have done they think they should not have done. In this case, they will need to be encouraged to go back and look again until they come up with something, however big or small.

No one else can do this for the person. The learning and progress can only come from doing it themselves. The Clearer might be certain they know what the client is groping around for and it can seem like the most helpful thing to offer that insight to them. That is an error. It can be explained exactly what is wanted from them, and why, as many times and in as many ways as it takes.

Every [clearing communication cycle] must contain an action by the individual that you are helping. If it doesn’t, then all you are doing is just manipulating him or chatting with him, which might be very nice and pleasant but there won’t be any increase in ability. So he must carry out an action in compliance with your instruction.9



Just occasionally someone will look inside and do what was asked but there was nothing they could find. This is OK if they have really looked. They did what they were told to do and reported back. But mostly there will be something to relate and it is the Clearer’s job to see that they do this clearly.

There is plenty that can go awry with the second step. For instance, some people easily go off on tangents and do not respond to the question or instruction. In day-to-day conversation this goes on all the time; they might get stuck in casual connected thoughts.10 People are reminded of something by another thing that triggers a third thing, and so forth. It makes a kind of sense in that one thing is sort of related to the next; but these are chains,11 they are related randomly in the mind. The connections are meaningless, and listening to them, while often the social norm, is unhelpful if the purpose is actually to offer real help and relief from the mind.

The instruction might be to ‘Tell me something you did that you think you shouldn’t have done,’ and they think of something. Maybe they remember they kicked the cat one time and have always felt bad about it. They may or may not actually report this, and if they did not, then that is a problem in itself. In any case, the thought may trigger a story about the cat and then maybe a story about their neighbour’s cat and so on until the Clearer has lost the thread entirely and the person is now talking about their sailing holiday in the Caribbean and the Clearer is struggling to get back to the point.

This kind of random talking should be stopped as quickly as possible. People might be a bit surprised to be interrupted initially, especially if they have had some other kinds of therapy which encourage it. Nonetheless, they must kindly, but firmly, be interrupted and the compliance must be pursued, or the cycle will be broken. It is the compliance and cycle that helps. The response must be expressed and understood fully, until the person is complete on it, but not more than this. It may trigger some insights and that might be positive. But this is a judgement call. If the insights are clearly something really new and valuable to the client, then it is important to hear what they have to say and possibly encourage them to say more to discharge it completely from the mind. On the other hand, what might look



initially like a tangent may not be in some instances. Some people take time to work their way round to a compliance, and if they are asked to explain the relevance of what they are saying, they can do so. At least to start with, they may need to tell the whole story in order to explain the compliance; it would not be complete for them without the context. As they see it, their Clearer needs to know this background stuff in order to understand the compliance. People vary in this enormously. But if it is just jumping from one thought to another in a chain, it should be stopped. The compliance should be sought and then the Clearer must go on to the next instruction.

Another pitfall is that the Clearer did not get the thought straight before they gave the instruction and the client was consequently unclear on what was wanted of them or did not understand it for some other reason. If they have not understood the instruction, it is the Clearer’s responsibility to sort it out and get it across.

It pays to have a good instruction that’s appropriate to the [client’s] level, but no matter how good the instruction is, it won’t work unless you know what it is you’re after. Make sure the [client] has got it, make sure the [client] is satisfied that he has answered it and make sure you see exactly how the [client] sees that this is an answer or compliance to that. If you don’t follow that procedure, it doesn’t matter how good the question or the instruction or the technique is, it doesn’t matter how appropriate it is, it won’t work.12

Alternatively, the client might give a response the Clearer does not understand as a compliance.

The Clearer gave the instruction to ‘Tell me something they think they should not have done.’ Bob’s response to this was to say, ‘I laughed.’ The Clearer in this case had no idea what Bob was referring to and so could not judge whether or not it was a compliance. So he checked it out and, sure enough, Bob could easily explain that the instruction had immediately triggered a memory of laughing at his little brother when he fell down and cut his hand and feeling guilty about it. It was a compliance because it was something he thought he should not



have done. Once it was explained, the Clearer got it and acknowledged the compliance. The cycle was completed.



The person has come for help and the Clearer is only there to help them. While it may not seem polite to stop them in full flow, it is helping them by doing so and they will appreciate it finally, even if they find it a bit impolite or odd in the beginning. In fact, they will rapidly lose faith in the Clearer and the process if they are not kept on the straight and narrow, because allowing them to ramble will not be of any help and they will know this on some level.

The client may not be interested in the instruction given and decide to answer some alternative instruction of their own; if this is the case, it may be relevant to reassess the area currently being worked on and find something more in line with where the person is. But it may also be an avoidance, so it is vital to pursue it until either the client approaches what they are avoiding and goes on, or, occasionally, the problem area being worked on is reframed.

The most common problem as Berner describes it is that the client:

doesn’t even consider or contemplate or meditate on your instruction at all, or he does it on the most superficial level. Because he hasn’t learned how to execute something subjectively or from himself, he does not execute the instruction.13

In this case the client must be helped to understand what is wanted so they can do it. They might not know how to look inside. It simply might make no sense to them because they have never tried it and no one has ever asked them to do it before, so how would they know?

A client’s ability to look inside and communicate might be a lot worse than one assumes it could be. They might present as a well-adjusted, aware, functioning individual with a responsible job, a house and a family all that looks normal, but when it gets down to the details of consulting themselves and reporting what is actually going on for them, they are in unknown territory.

If this is the case, they will have to be instructed, perhaps in detail, on how to look inside and comply. It will be necessary to start small



and build. This may mean explaining about compliance and being precise. When it is clear they are doing their best to look inside and comply with the instruction and communicate what comes up as a result, this must be accepted for the time being. The Clearer may know the compliance is not complete, but next time it will be deeper and clearer, and they have made a start and there has been progress. The client may go home after the session and explain something to their spouse more clearly than they have ever done before. That might be revolutionary in their household.

In some cases, however, the person might not communicate what came up enough for it to be accepted as a compliance. They are coming to sessions because to some degree or another they are not that great at communicating. So, even when they have looked inside and come up with a response and attempted to get it across, they may not have got it across enough for it to be recognised as such. This is true of many people. They go around certain they have been as clear as anyone could be, but in fact no one really understands much of what they are saying and no one puts the work in to try to get clear on it. For such a person, being clearer might not be as easy as just expanding the thought; they are not really certain about what they are saying themselves. They need help.

A Clearer should never be too strict about this. As long as the communication can be understood clearly enough as a compliance and recognised that the client is doing their best, this should be accepted for the time being; it is a start. But it will be vital to help them get clearer on what they are saying and draw them out until they are making better sense to themselves and to the Clearer.

A good example of this for me was Wilson. He was very able in some areas of his life and professionally highly successful. But when it came to talking about certain areas of problem around his relationships with people around him, such as more peripheral friends and people he saw as having authority in the community, his capacity to get himself across dropped dramatically and he felt so overwhelmed and stressed by it that he even struggled to identify the problem. Finally he whittled it down to something like, ‘I feel stupid and self-conscious when I



have to deal with some people in my life.’ We gradually worked through this until he became clearer about what was actually going on for him, and the level of charge was reduced to the point where he could relax more around it and work on it further to where he was rarely troubled by it. But to begin with, just getting to having a nameable problem to work on was extremely hard for Wilson. He came to the session knowing he wanted to work on this feeling of difficulty and stress but, when I asked him to talk more about it, he was tongue-tied and found it tremendously hard to focus on the issue, as it was so clumped up and stuck together in his mind. Eventually he said, ‘Some people make me really nervous.’ From that point we slowly built a picture of what happened in these situations and got clearer on it.



Withholding is another common problem. In fact, the whole problem of the mind can be described as one big problem of withholding. But there are different levels of this. There are many reasons why a person might not communicate what comes up for them when they look inside to find a compliance. They withhold the communication. They might, for instance, be ashamed of what they have thought of and assume they will not be respected or liked if they say it. Or they might not say it because they think no one could possibly understand; before, no one else ever understood, so why should the person in front of them this time be any different? Or they do not entirely understand what came up for them.

For one of these reasons they do not really communicate what came up or they say something else or only a small part of it that they think will satisfy their Clearer and get them off their back. Here is ample opportunity for going wrong because if this is ignored and the Clearer goes ahead and accepts any of these as a compliance, then the cycle will be disrupted and there will be no progress. They will lose faith if this non-compliance is accepted, even though this is what they are presenting. They will know it at some level and if it happens too often, they may not come back. In any case, the Clearer will end up having to go back later and work out what went wrong because it is a



disruption in the flow between the parties and it will halt the progress

– maybe not completely, but it will be clogged up.

James had a lot of withholds to begin with when he came for sessions. There was a lot of underlying shame that we gradually dealt with. But at first, he would regularly have an expression on his face suggesting something had come up when I asked him to say more about something. Then he would often shake his head, almost imperceptibly, and look around for something else to say. He always did his best to respond truthfully, but he often did not say the first thing that came into his head. The first thing was often loaded with anxiety and sometimes shame. In fact, he was so anxious about what might come up that he skirted round first thoughts just in case they were shameful and severely censored his responses, even though when he actually thought about it, it was quite difficult to come up with things of which he really felt ashamed.

When I would ask him what had come up first, he would say, ‘Ah, nothing important.’ I worked hard with him and gradually he began to express a part of it: ‘Oh, I didn’t like myself very much around that time but I’m over it now, I accept myself’; or even ‘Nothing came up really, I just had a thought about what I’ve got to do later.’ It took some skill to know which of these answers to pursue since it was clear he was doing his level best to communicate what came up and felt highly stressed by some of what he was holding back.

Then, one day, he came in and said, ‘I had decided not to say this, but I’m going to anyway’ and proceeded to tell me something about his past he’d been withholding, about the way he had behaved in a business deal of which he felt very ashamed. He told me also that, as far as he was concerned, he had never shown his real self to anyone. This was huge for him. But just saying these things lightened his demeanour immediately. His ability in getting himself across in sessions, and also in the rest of his life, leaped up and his business also started to flourish again.



The Clearer can derail the cycle all by themselves by not listening properly. They could have been triggered by something the client said into thinking about their own problems, with their mother, for instance, or they could simply be distracted by thinking about what they are going to cook for dinner or that they need to do their accounts. In any case, they were thinking about something else when the client was communicating and did not understand fully or missed a crucial word or phrase. In this case, the Clearer will need to ask them to say it again.

Another way a person may not have listened properly is that they were listening in a narrowed way because they were judging what the client was saying, perhaps not even consciously.

Ginny: I realised I was hearing what Rachel was saying about how she feels she should be doing more to help her mother, but although it was going into my ears, I was all the time thinking that, as far as I was concerned, she was doing more than enough. So I made an error that nearly destroyed the whole session. I told her she was giving herself a really hard time and was doing lots for her mother already and perhaps she should work at getting some support for herself.

As soon as I’d said it I could feel it was the wrong thing to say. Rachel looked at me in a strange way and I could see that I just hadn’t been listening properly to what her concerns really were. Whether or not she might be wise to look at her own support systems, that was not where the session was. At that point, it was essential to Rachel that I really understand her sadness about her mother and her feelings of being inadequate. My own ideas about what was reasonable had pretty much completely blocked out the real person in front of me trying to articulate her difficult feelings. From what I understood, I was the first person she was confiding in, and I was off on some mission and not with her and getting how it was for her at all. Even if I was right, and later had thought it was clear that Rachel could do with looking at her own support systems, the error was in not getting how it all was for her and making my own judgement, which was



actually quite different in many respects from her real sense of what was appropriate for her to do.



If the Clearer thinks the client is not really giving a compliance in line with the instruction, even though the client may think they are, and the Clearer does nothing to stop this, then the Clearer will become sleepy. They must think back. Was there something that was left unchallenged that they were not convinced by?

Clearer: Tell me how going around with the attitude that you’re special affects you in life.

Client: It means I treat people better. Clearer: OK, yes, thank you.

In this case, the Clearer was not sure how having an attitude of being special, which is what this client identified as something he often experienced, made him treat people better. It needed to be checked out. Letting this go and acknowledging it as a compliance in the face of uncertainty would derail the cycle.



If, on the other hand, the client is responding and the Clearer is happy they are getting compliances, but the client is not really convinced they are giving proper compliances, then the client will get sleepy. If this happens, the Clearer will need to check out what is going on with the client and get them to explain their compliances more until both get that they are complete.

Clearer: Tell me how going around with the attitude ‘I’m special’ affects you in life.

Client: Well, I suppose I tend to be quite proactive at work and put myself forward for new projects.

Clearer: Thank you. Tell me another way in which going around with the attitude ‘I’m special’ affects you in life.

Client: Being special means I treat people better.



Clearer: OK, thank you. Tell me another way in which going around with the attitude ‘I’m special’ affects you in life.

Client: Um…well, I guess it probably makes me a bit mean sometimes…like when people aren’t as good as I am at things, I can get impatient sometimes.

Clearer: Thank you, yes, I get that. Tell me another way in which going around with the attitude ‘I’m special’ affects you in life.

Client: (quite long pause) I’m not sure, really. I suppose thinking I’m special is a bit arrogant, so I probably offend people. I’ve mostly got it under control, but that sounds right, some people are offended by things I say.

Clearer: Thank you. Tell me another way in which going around with the attitude ‘I’m special’ affects you in life.

Client: (much longer pause) I don’t know, really. I don’t think this attitude really holds me up much in life. It seems to work pretty well for me most of the time.

In this case, it sounds like a clearing communication cycle, but it is not. The Clearer had had some experience of working with this sort of attitude, so she drew on this as well as her own case and filled in the gaps in the cycle herself. She understood how going around thinking you’re special can make you think you’re treating people better, so it could be a clear compliance and she made a mistake and elected to understand the responses in her own way. She did not check it out.



In fact, the client was feeling uneasy about his responses from the start. He was giving compliances he liked to think were true but he had already identified this as an attitude that was a problem for him, so what he was saying was out of line with that. The fact that his Clearer seemed to think it was OK was also confusing because of what they had been talking about with respect to this attitude. So his judgement felt mixed up. On the other hand, it was not requiring much hard work from him because he was increasingly intellectualising, so he carried on, as he was keen for the session to go well, and chose to assume she


was right. But as he relaxed into how easy the session had suddenly become, he started to feel sleepy.

Sometimes a session can be hard going and it will be derailed if the Clearer gives up on getting instructions across to the client. Cycles can be difficult to establish and the client may be in a bad way, going off on long tangents and never really grasping what it is that is being asked of them to start straightening this situation out. This requires tenacity and courage from a Clearer and sometimes they effectively give up on getting the instruction across to their client. In this case, they may end up with a pleasant enough chat or the client will just jump from one thing to another, but the session will not work. The Clearer has to be committed to helping the client, and to do this, the instruction must be clear and it must be communicated so that the client gets it and complies. It does not matter how long it takes to achieve this. This is the work. As soon as it is back on track, with the instruction clear, the energy snaps back and the muddled feeling that has likely built up clears. That muddled feeling is mind.